Evolutions

Hey my lady and I are interesting in this type of lifestyle but she's nervous and we don't know where to start. Any advice?

Best advice? Take it really really slow. If she’s nervous or apprehensive at all, she’s not ready. Some butterflies are going to be normal because it’s uncharted territory, but it’s hard to say what’s best because I don’t know you or your partner and each situation is unique. Is it actual cuckqueening she’s into? Or just FFM play? Because they’re similar but different… Start with role playing or dirty fantasy talk? You could pretend she’s the other woman while you’re getting it on? Have her describe to you her fantasy, what turns her on and just go with it. That’s how hubs and I got started. I always knew I liked the idea of him with other women. After a few drinks and getting a little loose lipped, I’d describe to him in full detail what I liked, what I wanted to see, what I fantasized about while we got it on. It’s really what started all of this. Let her take the lead and go at a pace that’s comfortable for her. If you’re past all of that and she seems comfortable and interested then go on a date together and check out women while you’re out. Don’t actually pick anybody up yet, just make it a fun game. Where you both look for, talk about and fantasize about a female together and see where it leads? It took Hubs and I a long LONG time to actually bring someone into our bed because we wanted to be SURE it didn’t negatively affect our relationship. We were very cautious because you can’t go back in time and undo something that happened. All too often people jump in with two feet without thinking about the consequences or repercussions. We took it really slow, made sure both parties were comfortable. It was a natural progression to where we are today. I totally just rambled on and on here. But it’s hard for me to answer these asks with so little information. I hope this helps somebody somehow! 💋

So technically, we have an open marriage. It’s still a novel thought.

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31 Female here.. I absolutely adore your blog! Love it love it! Question: was it tough for you to get through any jealousy issues? If so, how did you get through them?

Yes! The first time we played I was insanely jealous and insecure and a mess. But I think that’s what drew me back in. Call it insanity but there’s a rush of adrenaline that comes with it too. I think for me, winning back my husband affections is what helped me through it. I knew I had some work to do. I had to own him, reclaim him, make him remember why he chose ME. That worked paired with openly talking to him about it. I know in our regular life, he would never do anything to hurt me or harm me. He would never cheat on me or lie to me. So with that rock solid foundation paired with open communication and all around great sex, we get through it together. It sounds crazy. You just need to find what works for you :)

Do ever turn to Your husband when you need to feel reassured of yourself/ do you ever feel neglected even if it's unintentional?

Of course I do! My husband is my rock. He’s always there to provide me with any assurance or comfort I need. That’s what marriage/partnerships are about. He does this FOR me, not to me. I enjoy it and I want it and if that ever changed he wouldn’t want to go forward with it any longer. Honestly I think I enjoy it more than he does 😉 We don’t enjoy humiliation or degradation of any sort whatsoever. If you need something from your significant other, just ask. If either party isn’t enjoying themselves or isn’t being satisfied, then it shouldn’t be happening. Good luck! Hope this helped ❤️

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Jealousy is a natural human emotion that we obviously all feel occasionally. I was just wondering because your situation is more unique than most how you personally deal with jealousy in your relationship or how often jealousy comes into play with a relationship dynamic like yours.

I would be lying if I said I didn’t feel those pangs of jealousy, but what I do with those feelings is what helps me. I literally transfer them. I know that sounds odd, and I’m not sure how I do it, but I change them and force those feelings to manifest as other feelings… So instead of jealousy I end up feeling really turned on, determined and challenged with winning back my husband’s affections. Sometimes I get sad, sometimes it’s anger, and most often it turns me on. I know for a fact I am strange, and my brain definitely isn’t wired like others… I think it also helps that I have a deep respect and admiration for my husband and I know he feels the same about me. At the very root of it all, I feel loved and supported and connected to him in ways that could never be broken. I know he would never leave me or do anything to hurt me. We only do this because I want him to, not the other way around 😉 So I guess it’s a combination of it all. My desires mixed with my strange way of thinking and the rock solid foundation I have with my partner! If you’re struggling with issues of jealousy don’t be afraid to speak up. Talk to your partner! If left to fester jealousy can break up marriages and relationships. Being open and honest is a must if you want to navigate this lifestyle together. Good luck! ❤️