I struggle with asking questions in class because of all of this.
why autistic/adhd people may not ask for help
i’m not sure where to start and i don’t even know what questions to ask that would help me understand any of this
i want to ask you but i’m deathly afraid that you will hate my guts and resent me forever
i feel stupid and embarrassed for not knowing/understanding this
i wasn’t paying attention/i zoned out/you were talking too fast while going over this
“oh my god are you serious? it’s obvious, weren’t you paying any attention?” thanks for confirming i’m as stupid as i feel, appreciate it
i forgot about this deadline and i should’ve done it sooner but now it’s too late and awkward to say anything
your criticism will cast me into despair
i have no idea how to articulate my concerns so i will sit here silently until i can
i feel horrible about not doing it and not asking you initially and so i’m avoiding talking about it in the hopes that i will miraculously and suddenly understand it instead of doing the walk of shame to your office and risking the chance that i’ll piss you off and ruin your night
i’m working up the confidence to ask you
i’m formulating in my head a way to ask that doesn’t make me sound like i didn’t care enough to do it sooner, and that i actually have the willingness to do it, and that doesn’t place any blame on anyone except maybe me
autistic/adhd people feel free to add on! obviously this will vary from person to person, but this is my personal experience as an autistic and adhd person. if you’re neurotypical, please don’t try to offer tips for how to get around this because i can almost guarantee it will not be helpful :)
I just read that asking someone how they are is rhetorical; my mind is blown. Is it really rhetorical? I’m so confused.
Well this explains a lot. I started getting migraines at 7 as well.
Not so fun facts about my migraines:
15-20% of people get migraines
0.002% of people get Hemiplegic migraines
Sometimes I get regular run of the mill migraine. The kind where your head hurts and lights and sounds are horrible.
Sometimes the left side of my face goes numb and I can’t smile right
Sometimes my right arm gets weak
Sometimes both of my legs get weak and I can’t walk without a cane or walker
Sometimes I struggle to find words
Sometimes the vision in my right eye is just not quite right
Sometimes I get terrible vertigo
Sometimes I get super nauseated
Sometimes my teeth hurt
Sometimes I feel super hot/flushed
Sometimes I get all of the above
Autism is an independent risk for migraines
Autistic children are far more likely to experience migraines
One study showed that autistic people were twice as likely to experience migraine
I started getting migraines at age 7
My triggers are weather changes (I can usually tell it’s going to rain based on my aura) and hormonal changes, especially PMS
These are the two triggers that are impossible to avoid
Thank you all for listening to me complain while I lay in bed miserable because I can’t walk or smile or have the lights on.
Does anyone else ever feel like their body parts are on wrong? I get this weird sensation sometimes that mine are, even though I can look at it and see it’s fine.
Right now, it’s my hips and pelvis. It just feels wrong.
Is this an autistic sensory thing?
Pattern by Mary Corbet of Needle ‘n Thread
Link
I’ve been itching to get back to cross stitching for a while now. I have one all planned out for a friend, but I can’t find my white aida cloth to start. At least, I think it’s big enough for what I need. Not working makes things challenging when needing to purchase supplies. The black aida I purchased earlier this year was just a bit to narrow for what I need, so I decided to repurpose it. To snowflakes, of course! Did a little Google search, found this free pattern and here I am. Also, black aida is a bitch to work on. it feels like a miniature litebrite. I’m a quarter done with it after starting on Friday, which is weird to think. It’s been good for keeping my hands and mind busy, especially with the wife having seizures off and on all day. She was supposed to have an ambulatory EEG this weekend, but our outlets in our 1950s house are too small to accommodate what the tech needed to plug the camera into. Now we get to schedule a 72 hour EEG at the hospital in the middle of respiratory disease hell season. Weeee!
In better news, our plumbing is getting replaced tomorrow. Or rather, the plumbing replacement process starts tomorrow. Jackhammering at 8 am! Who doesn’t love getting woken up to jackhammering right next to the bedroom? Although I just thought of something. Wife’s seizures have been sound triggered as well; this could get really messy.
I love this shit.
People who are really into astrology and personality tests scare me. I could be like "Yea I'm a 4w5, Capricorn, INTP, and I'm also a Gryffindor" and suddenly they know my favorite food, that weird dream I had when I was 12, and the maiden name of my 1st grade teacher.
stop glamorizing “the Grind” and start glamorizing whatever this is
Climate change is real and happening faster than scientists thought.
the maple leafs injured both of the hurricanes goalies so they put their fucking zamboni driver in the net LMAO
36F.AuDHD.INFP.Hufflepuff.Taurus.Mostly crafty, neurodivergent, astrology, and random things I enjoy.
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