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Idk if I've posted about this before, but the most important thing I've learned in 2022 (The Year Of Never Ending Doctors' Visits) is to leave every medical appointment with a clear-cut set of next steps. When you have a chronic health issue, it's not just as simple as telling the doctor what's wrong and letting them take it from there.

If you go in for an undiagnosed issue, your should leave with:

An investigative plan: Orders for labs, imaging, or specialist referrals to try and figure out what's causing the problem. If your doctor doesn't want to order tests, ask why. It could be an insurance issue (e.g. tests denied unless front line treatments have failed), or it could be a bias issue. If it's a bias issue, things get more complicated, but the first step towards adequate care is asking your doctor to note that you requested testing for the issue and they denied it on the basis of [whatever]. I have some tips for next steps in these situations, so feel free to shoot me a message.

A "what-if" follow up plan: Ask your doctor, "What if the labs/scans/etc. come back negative or inconclusive? What if this treatment plan is not effective after [preestablished length of time]? What's the next step?" and make sure the next steps are noted. This helps keep you on your doctors' radar until you have an effective care plan in place.

A symptom management plan: Really spell out the effect the symptoms are having on your daily life. Let the doctor know you're fully invested in long term recovery, but that you need something to help you live your life as "normally" as possible until the long term treatment plan can be established and take effect. This could be medication, assistive devices, FMLA or other documentation for work/school, etc.

If you go in for a diagnosed issue, swap out the investigative plan for a long-term treatment plan. The goal should be to reduce your symptoms or prevent progression, if possible. For some conditions, this looks pretty similar to symptom management.

This has been working pretty well for me lately. At the end of my appointments, I verbally summarize my understanding, like "Okay, so we're trying to figure out the cause of my [symptom], and you've ordered XYZ tests. If nothing comes back abnormal, you'll [order different tests, refer to specialist, etc.]. In the meantime, I can manage it with [medication, lifestyle change(s), adaptive device, etc.]. Is that a good summary of our plan?"

Rinse & repeat at any/all follow up visits.

So excited to have a flare up during my EOC exam tomorrow and not being allowed to have any of my diy treatments because the school refuses to accommodate me, so fun!!! /src

But seriously I had a flare up in the middle of my SAT and it caused me to not be able to finish a section due to incoherency and pain. Literally just let me have my salty beverage…..

Those peeps: You really shouldn't ship Alastor because it's harmful and disrespectful to aros, aces, and aroaces. I mean, why even put him in a romantic relationship when he isn't interested? Maybe you should do some research.:)))))

Aros, Aces, and Aroaces that date, are married, or have sex and freely ship Alastor with others:

Who’s on my pride float!

If I could have anybody on my pride float for asexuality/aromantism, I would choose Yasmin Benoit and Cavetown.

I don’t know a lot about actually pride parades because I’m not allowed to go to them so I don’t know if my choices make sense but yeah!

“why bother writing bisexual characters if they just end up in a m/f relationship”

my dude

my guy

my pal

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Hello from your friendly neighborhood aromantic mom friend and I’m here to tell you about my aro realization for Aromantic week!

Ok so this will be poorly formatted and maybe a bit long.

Ok let’s begin!

I came to terms that I was aromantic a couple months ago though I identified as aro-spec for nearly a year before that.

I realized I was aro in probably a bad way.

For a little over a year, I had convinced myself that I had a crush on my friend who we will refer to as Eggroll.

Eggroll is a sweet girl, she truly is, but she is also obsessed with romance and love and touch and affection. This was something I had to come to terms with in the time of our “flirtationship”.

She was constantly reaching out for I love you’s, constantly in need of affection and live that I simply couldn’t provide. I tried my best, over and over, I forced myself to see a life with her, dates with her, dances, just sweet little moments.

But I just couldn’t get behind it.

This wasn’t the first time this had happened, throughout school, I found myself trying to find people that I found cute or even mildly liked but wasn’t overly close with and slot them into the all to important role of love interest that society insisted was normal for someone of my age.

But it just wasn’t.

And eventually I had to tell Eggroll how I felt.

She was also a bit codependent and a tad insensitive and didn’t listen while also being constantly but hurt if I ever told her I found something rude or was uncomfortable with something.

I told her, over text, one Wednesday, a really emotional day.

She understood, although she felt sad, she sprung right back to her feet by the next week and now is constantly “in love” with nearly every pretty girl she spots.

I’m happy for her, she’s happy for me.

And I get to be happy in my own skin, with a label that I love, that I can relate to.

My experience isn’t the same as everyone else’s but as someone who witnesses identify crises every week and has had many of their own, I am always open to helping anyone who needs it.

This mom friend is a mom friend to all and is here for anyone who need some help, support, and/or platonic or familial love.

I hope you’re having a great day

🖤🤍💚

Which LGBTQIA+ cliche do you most identify with?

Here’s the thing.

As an asexual I most identify with beanies and succulents and Galaxy shit.

But as an enby, I am both the flamboyant goth layers for days and the reddie love child button ups and Fanny pack wearing smart ass depending on the temperature outside.

hello! just a lil smth, please don’t scroll!

tw // anti-asian violence

there’s been a fuck ton of aapi hate since the beginning of the pandemic and especially lately, with the georgia shootings today, and even the grammys last sunday

all this said i just wanted to share a few resources (none mine!):

- anti-asian violence resources (this resource is also linked in my pinned, it contains information, petitions, places to donate and a lot more)

- stop asian hate (contains petitions, places to donate, ways to spread the word and more)

- sites to donate to and share (if you have a twitter please consider retweeting)

- a cumulative twitter thread with a little bit of everything and more than i explained

+ stop asian hate gofundme

+ asian american resource center (an atlanta based foundation focused on housing and civil classes)

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if you have any resources you wanna share reply and/or reblog and i’ll add it, and with that please share this with the same tags <3 sending love to my fellow aapi, please stay safe all of you and don’t be fucking racist :]

Listen up!

You see a post like this? Where OP might hurt/kill themselves? You hit that button that I circled

Hit that.

Click Suicide or Self-harm Concern

Yes.

Fill in the rest of it, and hit submit. The "content you reported" will fill itself in

Tumblr will follow up and help them.

Warning: this is only for mobile. If anyone knows how to do this for desktop, please add it!

This could SAVE SOMEONE'S LIFE.

YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE NOT TO REBLOG THIS.

I DON'T GIVE A FUCK IF IT DOESN'T GO WITH YOUR BLOG'S THEME.

And yes, REBLOG. Liking does no shit at all. This isn't ig.

You reblog, people see it. You don't, people don't see it. This shit's that simple.

This could save someone's life. It's not a joke.

americans better be rebloging the donation and help links for mexico and colombia after all the help they recieved from latin americans w their own issues