Your purpose in life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself.
If you goal is to love yourself, then your focus is directed inward toward yourself, and you end up constantly watching yourself from the outside, disconnected, trying to summon the “correct” feelings towards yourself or fashion yourself into something you can approve of.
If your goal is to love being yourself, then your focus is directed outward towards life, on living and making decisions based on what brings you pleasure and fulfillment.
Be the subject, not the object. It doesn’t matter what you think of yourself. You are experiencing life. Life is not experiencing you.
I don’t remember where this story was from but it was about how the writers older brother died when he was young and years later had a son who, had never met the brother had the same mannerisms as him. Ok I think I remember the key words were “my son drinks from the water fountain like my brother” or something
i don't think you are wrong that diagnosing ppl with anxiety and adhd and depression is lucrative, but that analysis is difficult for me to swallow wholeheartedly, as someone who has chronic depression that makes it hard for me to function at the level im expected to. it's still a disability
it is totally a disability but the ways that “the level you are expected to function” at in society purposefully leaves your emotional needs unfulfilled I think is the main reason depression is so widespread. like the circumstances of capitalism in tandem with a biological predisposition will take you tf out but a lot of people don’t have predispositions to these conditions and still develop them and framing their fear, sadness and distraction as individual illnesses to be combatted through spending money is valuable to several industries. like its a disorder if it “impedes your daily function” but everyone’s daily function is shaped by the cruel pointlessness in the first place. they should be seen as logical reactive states that reflect societal failure. It’s just weird to me to see a diagnosis of depression, anxiety or adhd rn still being framed first and foremost as an individual chemical deficiency when sadness/anxiety/lack of focus or motivation are completely natural responses to what we’re all going through. it would be weird for the majority of people to respond to this situation with immediate hope or drive. just because something’s wrong with you doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you
I'm really tired of people on social media saying things like "being silent on an issue means you side with the oppressors" like yes this is true in an abstract sense and is true in a more definite sense if we were all celebrities with large platforms and someone was interviewing us and they asked us about some political issue directly and we said "no comment" but choosing to exist on social media without endlessly discussing every political issue happening throughout the entire world does not mean you stand with oppressors, it means you're just living your life and focusing your energy (mostly offline!!!!!!!) to the few causes and issues most important to you, and that's entirely okay... enough with the fake woke guilt-tripping
“Down here - he said - you will find people who will follow any dragon, worship any god, ignore any inequity. All out of a kind of humdrum, everyday badness. Not the really high, creative loathsomeness of the great sinners, but a sort of mass-produced darkness of the soul. Sin, you might say, without a trace of originality. They accept evil not because they say yes, but because they don’t say no.”
Guards Guards! - Terry Pratchett
Yeah I love manipulating my friends for my own gain, the gain is called "hanging out", obtained via such cruel tactics as "showing interest in stuff they like" and "being generally complimentary and charming"
not 2 exaggerate but the good place’s thesis of “if the modern pressures of life were removed, we would inherently seek out opportunities to learn and become better and kinder people” is a more interesting and valuable thing to say about society than anything that’s ever been said about cell phones
Well I don’t love this.
if someone makes you happy, make them happier