This Is Glorious And Even Thought It Doesn’t Fit In The Range Of All The Paranormal, I MUST Share

I'm in a groupchat with a bunch of queer people and someone made a joke about how dating someone who is in the closet is a terrible idea and everyone kind of laughed and agreed without discussing it more. Is that really a thing? I've been dating the same girl for almost a year and she's in the closet, and it hasn't really affected our relationship, but now I'm nervous

no it’s not a thing, and it’s a shitty joke to make, but people make it a lot. they usually mean it in the usual, “haha closeted people are ashamed of being lgbt/closeted people hate themselves/they’re scared to be seen in public on a date/you have to pretend to be just friends” way, which is infuriating. closeted gay/trans people aren’t necessarily self loathing or ashamed, and even if they are, those traits aren’t exclusive to closeted people, and considering that most of us have been closeted at some point or another, we should be able to fucking empathize with people who have to do that all the time.

we all know why closeted people are closeted. it’s because homophobia/transphobia is alive and real and has dire fucking consequences for a lot of us. no one, esp other lgbt people who know both the consequences of being out and the consequences of being closeted, should ostracize or belittle those who aren’t ready or able to come out. 

17 calorie AMAZING strawberry ice-cream!

okay guys so I was super craving something cold and sweet and tried this out and this tasted SO GOOD. If you want it a bit more creamy add more of the milk of your choice, but this proportion is my fave so far!

(This recipe makes 2 servings, but I could only eat one it’s so filling - I had it for lunch)

🔆 6 medium frozen strawberries (24 cal)

🔆 40 ml of your milk of choice (Alpro coconut almond - 10 cal)

🔆 0 cal sweetener (stevia)

🔆 Lots of ice!

So place all your ingredients in a blender, blend until all the ice has broken down and enjoy! If its runny pop into the freezer for 10 mins and it should firm up to more ice-cream-like consistency 💖

if anti-smoking ads were less about shaming ppl for smoking & being like EW ur yucky 😳 & were more about resources for managing stress especially in marginalized communities where smoking is more likely to be picked up & resources for managing withdrawal symptoms & how to distract from mental cravings i wonder how many more people would quit

To the person reading this, I hope tonight treats you gently, and that tomorrow looks brighter. 

I love how basically all gays did the same thing where we realize we like someone of the same gender and just go “yeah we’re not gonna think about that. I’ll just deal with that later” like name another community that is so universally filled with procrastinators

If you say “make me” when someone tells you to shut up, you’re a bottom

Being gay often comes with doing a lot of things later than everyone else. Having your first kiss later than everyone else, having your first relationship later than everyone else, and all the things that we missed in middle school or high school we scramble to catch up on as adults. But doing things such as going on a date for the first time in your late teens or your twenties, or hell, even your thirties, does not make those experiences any less important or worth any less than if you had done them earlier. Do not be ashamed of “missing out” on common middle or high school experiences. You still have a long life to live, and plenty of time to make up for it.

Do you know how many young girls identify with the word gay because this society treats “lesbian” as something bad and sexual and dirty and secret. Honestly fuck that , and dear twelve year old self : lesbian is not a bad word it’s a beautiful one

Something people don’t understand about child abuse

One of the things that I really hate is that people don’t understand that survivors act differently and respond to their traumas in different ways.

I’m a survivor of csa and so is my friend. Her trauma made her extremely hypersexual while I could literally cry if someone even touched me.

My bf is a survivor of csa, I can talk for hours about my trauma if I felt safe enough while he NEVER brings it up.

A friend of mine is a survivor of emotional abuse and so am I. Her trauma made her angry while mine made me soft and defenseless.

My bf remembers every little detail about his trauma, while I repressed most of my childhood and traumas.

There’s no special “criteria” that you should fill in order to be a “valid” survivor, and there’s no specific way you should act if you were abused.

People respond to their traumas differently and it’s okay, your abuse is STILL valid no matter how you respond to it.