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Same here too !

Hey, I’m Jenna, and I’m craving that mature connection.

Yes of course x

Do you like mature women over 40?

The Strap On

One of the biggest kinks in a FLR is the strap on. There are many reasons why they’re so common and popular. They benefit both partners equally in different ways making it the perfect sex toy to have in your kinky collection.  However it goes beyond simply being a sex toy, as a strap on can have huge psychological effects as well as physical.  It can really enhance the D/s dynamic because its the perfect tool for role reversal. 

When a strap on is combined with chastity, some real magic can happen between partners.  The longer he is chaste, the more likely he is to crave some sort of anal play, as his prostate gets bigger and more sensitive, craving any kind of stimulation. Even if he doesn’t crave anal play, it is actually healthy for him to have the prostate stimulated, during long lock ups, so it’s for his own good anyway!  This is why a strap on can be so much fun.  He either craves it, or it is humiliating to him, or both!  

This is perfect for a domme as well, as she gets to discover the power of having a penis between her legs, and his moans of pleasure or discomfort, as she begins to thrust into him. This alone, can be an extremely high level of power exchange and very erotic for her. She can take him with her strap on until he is whimpering horny and deep in sub space. There are no concerns about him cumming from the strap on, because this generally requires a lot of time and concentrated effort and technique to achieve. It is possible, if that is what she wants, but she has full control over that. Leaving him horny, makes for an eager tongue after she is finished taking him with the strap on. A tongue in which, she is equally eager for!

The strap on is much more fun than simply just bending him over, there are many ways in which a strap on can be used, which can make it a symbol of her dominance over him.  Often, a strap on is bigger than his penis, and she can tease him about that, saying her cock is bigger than his, while taking him with it.  Or for even more fun, she could allow him to wear it over his cage, and allow him to have intercourse with her using it. Since its bigger than his own penis, she can tease and say how much better it feels.

She could even go so far as to name her cock, and have her sub respect it, by cleaning it after use. Or sucking it to lube it up. Just looking down into his eyes can give both partners a power exchange rush that creates a strong erotic charge.  She can also make him practice his sucking techniques, if she plans on bringing other males into the relationship at some point. Once she has named her strap on, her submissive will have to worship it in the same way he worships her body, because it’s her cock. The psychological effects this can have, can send him deep into subspace, and she can keep him there. 

The strap on can also come in very handy as a punishment. Sometimes a submissive just needs a good hard strap on session, ordering him to get the strap on, and bend over on command, can be a powerful technique. Taking him with it often, even when he’s not in the mood, will help him adjust his behavior to understand, it’s not his bum, it’s hers. His resistance to it, will soon drop away, and the strap on will become a symbol of her power. 

Perhaps eventually, it may be the only way he is allowed to cum.  This can be common if she likes to feminize him, he can literally become the female in the relationship, and cum from anal only, while still caged. There’s so many possibilities with the strap on, including attachments that can provide her stimulation while using it making it even more fun.  It’s just one more tool in the femdom box, that she can use to completely dominate and own her submissive in all the ways she’s always wanted.  It is all about her, after all.

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Essential Reading and thank you for finding the creative energy to put it all into focus for me - yours, most respectfully, Edward - south Devon in the UK

Her Chastity Addiction

Chastity is addicting for her. Yes, for her. He may be addicted to chastity too, but that's not the point. He's locked because she wants him locked, whether he likes it or not.

It may start out as his idea. Chastity is a hot fantasy of giving up control to her, but the truth is, most subs don't really know what happens when they want out, but they're not allowed out. It's all fun and games, until he actually wants out. His balls ache, his scrotum is sore from chaffing, he longs for an erection, and he's not even allowed to complain about any of it. This can go on for weeks.

It's only when he truly wants out of chastity, that she begins to see the real benefits of it. She sees his desperation, and she knows that he will do anything for her, to earn a release. So he will be extra obedient, and extra eager to please her, however she wishes.

That's the first reason why it's addicting. Just keeping him in that state of desiring her, and eager to please, is enough in and of itself, to keep him locked. She has him where she wants him. It's perfect. But it goes deeper than that.

Feeling that much control over him, over his body, over even the ability to have an erection, actually fuels her arousal. She is far more horny when he's locked, and she gets to use his tongue whenever she wishes. He gets to be extremely desperate and then ordered to go down on her, she cums all over his face, maybe multiple times, then she cuddles up to him and falls soundly asleep in his arms. Leaving him to leak and strain, and be soothed only by her relaxed deep breathing, feeling her body snuggled against his.

That's the second reason she is addicted to chastity. He is essentially her personal teddy bear, with a tongue. A tongue she can command, and teach, to eat her right, every time, there's no slacking, he must perfect his technique, otherwise he knows there's no hope of being unlocked. He is always striving to do his best for her, and she'll accept nothing less than that.

That's the third reason she is addicted to chastity. But still it goes even deeper than that. There is a sense of security, a sense of ownership of him, that comes with having him locked. She goes about her day, knowing he's thinking about her. Knowing she's the only one that can do anything about his desperation. This is an incredible power, she realizes the only sex he will ever get, will be decided by her, and her alone. She can take away all forms of masturbation and porn, she gets to control his sex life completely.

That's the fourth reason she is addicted to chastity. Once she has him locked, she can get playful with it. Flirty, teasing, or even humiliating. She can use her body and see his reaction to her sexiness. She can tease him that he's not allowed to have her. She can play with his cage, or even relax her feet in his lap while watching tv. She gets to have so much fun with him, and he's completely at her whim.

That's the fifth reason she is addicted to chastity. It's just plain and simple, a whole lot of fun. She has claimed him, she holds his key, and she never has to give it back. She sleeps far better, knowing he is safely locked up beside her.

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Yes please Mistress - Edxxxx

Fingering your baby boy in front of a mirror is completely underrated.

I want my baby boy to watch his hips move against my fingers, his mouth open, and his eyes water. I want him to clearly see my fingers playing with his nipples and then moving to his neck to squeeze. I want to pull his hair and tell him what a little slut he is.

My little fuck toy that I can use whenever I want~

Thank you Mistress - so pleased that your pleasures cum first & welcome all that delicious foreplay purely for your control & fun times-yours to endure - most respectfully - Edward xxxx

I'll be waiting xxxx

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Yes I agree - lucky you, and you will soon learn to Worship, Adore and Obey - take care out there too - Edward

Yes of course Mistress - full respect and obedience will always be shown to You - YMR Edward x

“Discipline must be maintained at all times.”

Yes of course Mistress - l will accept all DD & maintenance correction & offer myself on command - YMR Edward x

Yes I agree - they are a real pain in the arse, and such time wasters and I've set myself up as a Scammer Vigilante to expose and report them whenever they approach me with false info, just trying their luck - great shame these people exist and are on this and other sites too - Edward

Can't wait Mistress

Just so gorgeous - but who is she ???

Just so gorgeous - wish l knew who she is & where she is based?

Thank you Mistress for the reminder & appreciate her accuracy & dedication to her duties for DD & maintenance correction time. Edward x

yes I agree and its still highly pleasurable for both parties enjoying all those special pleasures, esp for Her just as it should be - delicious thoughts - Ed x

Queening and it's historical perspective

I just had to re-blog this article about Queening (Facesitting/Faceriding). It was written over 4 years ago by MsWicked.

Queening is, in the sado-masochistic pantheon of arts, the use of the male face, mouth, and nose and tongue, as a substitute for sexual intercourse and masturbation, by the dominant woman. It places the man in the most slavish, subservient position, under the woman’s buttocks and crotch. She sits on his face, or has his head trapped between her thighs. The whole event is devoted to her pleasure, her orgasms, and her time schedule. The man’s pleasure or pain, satisfaction or frustration, desires or fears are of little importance, if any. The woman’s clitoris, vulva, labia and vagina demand service. This thrilling, delicious sexual practice has an ancient and traditional history. Ladies of medieval households often had pages provide them with mouth, lip and tongue service under their skirts while their husband were absent, thus remaining, technically faithful. Many a young boy had his first lessons in. sex with his head under Madame’s backside, with her quim vigorously riding his face. Many young girls still virgins, enjoyed orgasms on a male servant’s mouths as the earliest sexual experiences. In ancient Chinese courts one long tongued, trained male slave was used by female royalty and court ladies as casually as if they were going to the lavatory. The slave would be summoned, face-fucked then dismissed casually and serenely. In old Japan, brothels would provide male victims for such use by visiting, paying women and girls. Mouth and tongue sexual service to the female genitals is ‘cunnilingus’ or ‘cunnilinctus’ literally cunt licking/ sucking. Queening properly places the woman on top of the male face, using it ruthlessly and selfishly. The lady commands, the man obeys. Having the male slave erect, frustrated and unsatisfied adds to the sadistic pleasures enjoyed by the woman. In ancient Persia, cleverly constructed chairs were known as man face stools with the male face replacing the seat centre. Ladies could lift their skirts, sit down, cover the scenario with those skirts, and with gentle rhythmic, firm hip and buttock movements enjoy private little orgasms even when others were present. Old Indian pornographic graffiti depicts scenes like that, with gowned girls, obviously in ecstasy, riding a male face while gazing at an enormous male erection. In more recent, Western times governesses and nannies have been recorded as teaching their young male charges just how to please their crotches with their tongues. Many a frightened, cowed Georgian or Victorian boy knew intimately the underside of Madame’s skirts and felt the vice-like grip of her gartered thighs round his head. Masquerading as a punishment and usually followed or preceded by a whipping, the queening would take place in conditions of discipline and severity. The curt command, the superior, unsmiling demand would be followed by a rustling lifting of black, voluminous skirts, the stripping off of Madame’s panties and the heavy, fleshy hot damp descent of her buttocks and crotch onto the boy’s face. Heaven help him if Madame did not orgasm satisfactorily. A savage whipping would follow. Even down in the servant’s quarters, the youngest male servant would find his head trapped under housemaids’ skirts. Cruelty seems to have been part and parcel of queening procedures in olden times. ‘Queening’ by definition, requires a dominant, demanding woman and a subservient, obedient man. The woman must be concerned only with her personal pleasure and satisfaction. His mouth, lips, tongue and nose are merely live tools there to pleasure her labia, clitoris, vulva and vaginal passage. He must be trained, if necessary by painful punishment, in the proper use of his facial features. She must gain the maximum delight and orgasmic satisfaction without concerning herself with her victim’s possible distress, humiliation and discomfort. He is nothing more than a sexual toy or playing, as of no more importance than her lavatory pan, her sanitary towels, her dildo, her handkerchief, her lavatory paper, her condoms or contraception pills, or her vaginal douche - all quite necessary to her private sexual and private well being, but all useable and disposable. The choice of type of slave is up to her. She may wish to have a wimpish male twit under her backside and quim. She may find more delight in subduing a macho strong male. She may have a cuckolded husband to humiliate, taunt and sit on. She may have developed her talents as a schoolgirl, together with her girlfriends, taking the school wimp into the girls’ lavatory and taking turns in squatting on his face. She may have gained experience by dominating a younger brother, riding his face selfishly while their parents were asleep or away from home. Some women like to have a mouth-dildo attached to their slave’s head, sticking up from his open mouth as a rideable accessory. This provides pleasant, full, vaginal passage orgasms, but prevents sucking and licking by the male victim. Other women blindfold their prone slaves, thus deleting any possible visual pleasure they might obtain. A few cruel ladies inevitably urinate on to his face after having orgasmed. Others enjoy demanding mouth service right after enjoying satisfactory adultery with a lover, thus making the victim more humiliated. Most talented queening ladies humiliate, taunt, torment, degrade and tease their victims before and after this enforced cunnilingus. It is essential that the male slave is more than intimate with those parts of a woman’s body which require servicing by his tongue, lips and nose. Kneeling astride his face, with his eyes very close to her cunt, is a pleasant torment. He is able to see and fear each part of her sexual equipment, staring right up into her vaginal passage and memorising her clitoris, labia and vulva. Using her fingers to stretch her labia she is able to insist that he looks and learns. He must also examine her anus ;with respect, in case she decides to have his nose inserted into it. She must teach him the way to kiss, lick and suck her sexually, with particular attention to her clitoris. He must suck and swallow her sex juices. To add a special thrill to her pleasure, she must make him afraid of her. He must be in awe of her. He must adore her. He must give her respect, and recognise her superiority. He must worship her genitals. They are his goddess, his fate, his destiny. His life is less important than a single orgasm enjoyed by her. Riding the male face requires careful, skilful experience, as much as is required in learning to ride a horse. The hip and buttocks movements are the key to success. The careful placing of the cunt on the mouth or nose is, of course, essential, and might require some wriggling adjustment until the male’s service parts are properly positioned. It may be that the lady wishes to have his nose against her anal rose while his mouth serves her quim. She will, of course, be as rough and savage as she wishes at the moment she comes. At that moment she must not care in the least if he suffocates, or chokes. After satisfaction she can relax, still sitting on his face and enjoy a cigarette or a glass of wine. When she dismounts she will casually ignore the fool, dismissing him abruptly, sending him off to continue his housework, followed by taunts and insults. Perhaps she will lend him to the girlfriends! The complete, perfect, mature woman always has two men in her life, one to fuck her normally the other to be queened by her, as her slave.

Thank you Mistress - that article is very welcome and gives me confidence that I am not alone with my preferences and sensual mindset - you are always in my loving desiring thoughts - Edward x

Perfect explanation

Obedience VS Subspace

There is a difference between being obedient, and being in subspace, though the two can coincide, they are distinctly different.

It is no secret that when a submissive male is horny, his need to be obedient grows in lockstep with how desperate he is.

He can become horny enough to agree to anything. To submit in any way she wishes.

So naturally he's best kept frustrated, because that's when he's the most beneficial to her.

However, just obeying, is not subspace. Subspace is an altered state of consciousness. It is something that occurs when he surrenders his own power over to her.

So it's not just obedience to her, it's a surrendering of his energy for her use. When this energy is surrendered, he enters subspace, it is like a meditative state.

All of his thoughts will clear from his mind, and he will feel his own energy be replaced by her dominance. He feels her power. It humbles him completely.

There are no other thoughts left to intrude, no stress, no worries, no doubts or fears. In fact even his pain tolerance goes up, because he's surrendered in that moment.

Subspace is like the great escape. It's the one place he can go, where he feels safe. Where he feels secure. Where he is free from concern.

The power exchange within subspace is amplified when she understands that he's in it. It's a palpable feeling for both, and as she feels his surrender, it can bring her into dommespace.

Where her dominance becomes her state of being, like submission becomes his. It's pure power exchange, and as a result of it, it's also pure bliss.

Pure expression, pure fulfillment. It's raw vulnerability, but also intimacy. It's a level of being naked beyond physicality. It's mental and spiritual.

When he comes out of subspace, he's still going to be frustrated, and obedient.

But nothing compares to subspace. It's a feeling that can be best described as home. Like somewhere he never wants to leave. Yet he's only allowed, or able to go there when she takes him there.

He can also learn a lot in subspace, about himself, and about her, because the intuitive receptiveness of that state of being, is enlightening.

While he cannot live his life in subspace, he can take the experience of it, and apply it in stress reducing ways for all problems in his life. Which also enables him to serve her better, and anticipate her needs better.

It creates a stronger bond with her. It turns into a feeling of being owned.

It also creates fierce loyalty. So fierce that she has no doubts, concerns, or worries, that he won't support her as much as he possibly can.

Which also means, he becomes her most trusted companion. More so than any of her friends or family. Complete and total open communication, and more importantly, carefree.

That's the glorious freedom found in a FLR.

Submissive men are drawn to obedience in the first place because they've had a taste of subspace.

Sometimes they get a glimpse of it through femdom porn. They can get sucked into that altered state for a moment or two. But then without anyone to actually accept his surrender, he snaps back to reality, and can't stay there.

So naturally, all he wants to do is get back there. They get desperate to get back there. They can't stop trying, because there is no better feeling. It's the ultimate drug. She is his ultimate drug.

Subspace is the high, and it's the most powerful high he can experience. Which is why he can never stop being submissive. It's why he can't change it.

It's why even though he needs discipline, will regret, pulling away, or disobeying. He may get scared, and run, but within hours he knows it's not the answer.

Subspace is scary, because of the surrender, he must let himself go, and trust her fully to enter it. That's not for the weak. The weak can't get there. They can't be that vulnerable.

Instead they get stuck on the level of obedience without subspace. Chasing. The constant chase, of always wanting, and thinking the more they obey the better they'll feel. But obedience is not subspace. Surrender is.

His surrender must be accepted by her, that's the only way he can get in subspace, and stay in subspace for a little while. And to revisit it as often as she'll allow.

What better way to be in love, than a FLR?

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perfect riding session - keeping him focused on your pleasure Ed x

Brilliant !

And I can never refuse my Mistress, es when She is having fun !

Ejaculation is Destructive

So many men live their lives without sexual charge. Getting horny, and getting off as soon as possible, is destructive.

It's destructive in ways that are not easily recognizable.

It appears like you're just getting off and enjoying the bliss of ejaculation.

But you're actually robbing yourself of so much more.

Even when you go an extra day or two, your orgasm is that much more powerful, ever wonder why?

The build up of sexual energy is stronger, the sexual charge was allowed to become a little more intense.

But still, it's spent. Valuable energy. Gone, for a few seconds of pleasure. It's really quite crazy. It's disempowering.

Sex education should teach that sexual energy is a source of power, motivation, ambition, passion, creativity, and endurance.

Every single time ejaculation occurs, all of those levels drop. While you're young, this replenishes itself quite quickly...

So it's not noticed as much. But as you age, it becomes more and more noticeable. It's also why you age faster than you'd like. Why your hairline starts to recede. Why you grow a belly.

Do you ever stop to think of how much potential you're robbing yourself of, because you masturbate too much? How that energy could be used in such better ways?

Notice how passionate you are before ejaculation. Notice how you are willing to take risks. Notice how it fills you with heightened confidence.

Then you ejaculate it out, and now you're back to reality. Chasing and craving.

You could remain in that heightened reality, and use that energy in healthy ways, ways removed from sex and fantasy.

This is why so many men would benefit from a FLR. Because when under a woman's control, he must learn will power, and how to handle his sexual energy.

She just redirects it for her purposes, rather than his. She shows him what he's capable of, and then uses his own energy to empower her.

Which is perfect for a relationship, because it makes them both happy, he is filled with purpose, since he couldn't find it before.

He goes from masturbation to purpose. Notice how he doesn't have both.

There are some males that have figured it out, and they do use their sexual energy to empower their business, and many of them still come home and submit to their wives because they understand the nature of their own sexuality.

They understand that energy feels better, when used for anything other than ejaculation.

Ejaculation can then become what it was always mean to be, a delightful treat. A rare treat, but something that is immensely enjoyed when it occurs. Making each orgasm memorable.

It brings the sacredness back to sex. It brings meaning back to sex.

Can you imagine how much better of a world we would live in, if men had self control, and understood the nature of their own sexual energy?

That's why they need a FLR. Because they all know they're missing out on sexual fulfillment.

There's a deeper calling that a FLR unlocks.

A calling that breaks the bondage of culture, and allows him to become who he really is, if only he could just get over himself.

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Please reblog if you support me as an author.

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