Cluster B Safe - Blog Posts

Wow uh

Finally posting something to this godforsaken app.

Um.

Hi chat.

I’m honestly trying to create a friendly little corner of this hellsite so uh, yeah! If you’re queer, neurodiverse, disabled or odd in some way shape or form hit me up.

I don’t judge.

A bit about me, I’m almost 16 (in July, woohoo!), I’m intersex and queer, VERY neurodiverse, disabled, and a little weirdo. My special interest is Scooby Doo, I love horror media as a whole, and I love film/cinema.

Nice to officially meet you all.

Autism, the worst one (/silly) mlm, c-did, c-ptsd, gad, and insomnia

audience test

How many disorders do you match with me

NPD

ASPD

STPD

ADHD

AUTISM

SENSORY PROCESSING DISORDER

MAN LOVING MEN (the worst one)

C-DID

C-PTSD

DYSLEXIA

LIKES PICKLES

BIPOLAR / MANIC DEPRESSION

GENERALIZED ANXIETY DISORDER

SELECTIVE MUTISM (fluctuates)

HYPER MOBILITY DISORDER

RESTLESS LEG SYNDROME

INSOMNIA

HCD (huge cock disorder. contagious so I have to be quarantined)

(all medically recognized. don't come @ me because I'm a fucked up guy) ((huge cock disorder is self diagnosed but you have to believe me))

this was actually a very vulnerable post to make but I want ableists to block me and we should not be ashamed to be disordered

"a narcissist's eyes will turn pure black" you mean like an adorable kitty cat?? an adorable kitty cat who saw a fun toy??

I need more friends who also have cluster b pds. I'm tryna find my people. Plus y'all are actually interesting lol (to me)

NPD adjacent flag! This flag is left vague so one can use it whether they are sure they have NPD, or just display traits, or are questioning. This was made with people who have trouble pinpointing their neurodivergencies in mind and is NOT to be used by transid/transx supporters.

[ID: Three images.

The first image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are red black, dark red, brick red, terracotta orange, carrot orange, yellow orange, bright yellow, white, bright lavender blue, and lavender blue. In the center of the flag is the outline of the narcissus flower colored red black. End First ID.

The second image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are maroon, red orange, bright orange, bright yellow, pink white, light blue, light purple, flower purple, and plum purple. In the center of the flag is the outline of a narcissus flower colored dark purple. End second ID.

The third image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, bright magenta, bright red, bright orange, pastel orange, bright yellow, off white, white, pastel green, and tea green. In the center of the flag is the outline of a narcissus flower colored dark indigo purple. End third ID.]

[ID: A divider that consists of a thin white line with three stars on each side. End ID.]

Flags by me, with sampled colors from NPD flags created by @/npdsafe and @/acidkeylime. Requested by @loveasappho. Tagging @npd-archive.

Narcissus outline symbol from the noun project. Link: https://thenounproject.com/icon/narcissus-1276973/

Flags without symbols below the cut:

[ID: A divider that consists of a thin white line with three stars on each side. End ID.]

[ID: Three images.

The first image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are red black, dark red, brick red, terracotta orange, carrot orange, yellow orange, bright yellow, white, bright lavender blue, and lavender blue. End first ID.

The second image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are maroon, red orange, bright orange, bright yellow, pink white, light blue, light purple, flower purple, and plum purple. End second ID.

The third image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, bright magenta, bright red, bright orange, pastel orange, bright yellow, off white, white, pastel green, and tea green. End third ID.]

HPD + BPD adjacent flag! This is left vague so anyone who has, is questioning, or displays traits of the disorder(s) may use it! These were made with people who have trouble pinpointing neurodivergencies and are NOT for transid supporters.

[ID: A flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are purple black, plum purple, dark magenta, berry pink, bright orange, sunny yellow, off white, cloudy blue, light purple blue, and dark stormy blue. End ID.]

Flag by me using sampled colors. Requested by @gillipopmoji.

NPD flag colorpicked from Mars!

[ID: A flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dark orange brown, dark plum red, chestnut red orange, sunny yellow orange, white, and misty blue grey. End ID.]

Flag by me, based on the flag by npd-safe. Tagging @npd-archive.

ADHD Adjacent flag, and ADHD + BPD adjacent flag! These are left vague so anyone who has, is questioning, or displays traits of the disorder(s) may use it! These were made with people who have trouble pinpointing neurodivergencies and are NOT for transid supporters.

[ID: Two images. The first is a flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are maroon, bright red, light orange, bright yellow, bright lime green, teal blue, and light ocean blue. In the center of the flag, there is a white ADHD symbol; the symbol is the outline of a butterfly. The second image is a flag with eight equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender purple, pale purple blue, sky blue, banana yellow, pastel orange, red, maroon, and dark maroon. In the center of the flag there is a symbol. The symbol consists of the ADHD symbol and the BPD symbol placed on top of each other. Each symbol is half black and half white, but the halves are reversed. End ID.]

Flags by me. Colorpicked from various ADHD and BPD flags. Requested by users on the LGBTQ wiki discord!

Flags without symbols below:

[ID: Two images. The first is a flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are maroon, bright red, light orange, bright yellow, bright lime green, teal blue, and light ocean blue. The second image is a flag with eight equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender purple, pale purple blue, sky blue, banana yellow, pastel orange, red, maroon, and dark maroon. End ID.]

Bpd Adjacent Flag! A flag that is left vague so anyone who has BPD, is questioning, or simply experiencing traits or symptoms can use it! This was made with people who have trouble pinpointing or recognizing symptoms in mind, and is not to be used by transID supporters.

[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with eight equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender purple, pastel lavender purple, white, soft yellow, peach orange, bright pink, purple magenta, and dark magenta. In the center of the flag, there is a black BPD symbol. The second image is a flag identical to the first, but without the symbol. End ID.]

BPD + Autism Adjacent flag! A flag that is left vague so anyone who has BPD and Autism themselves, is questioning having the disorders, or simply experiences traits or symptoms can use it! This was made with people who have trouble pinpointing or recognizing symptoms in mind, and is not to be used by transID supporters.

I made several versions of this flag. The first two are here, and more will be placed under the cut.

[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are smoky blue, sky blue, blue green, pastel green, pale yellow, pale orange, peach orange, bright pink, purple magenta, and dark magenta. In the center of the flag is a combined autism and BPD symbol. The second image is a flag identical to the first, but without the symbol. End ID.]

Flags by me, requested by a member of the LGBTQIA wiki server! Colors picked from two BPD flags as well as an autism flag.

More versions below the cut, as well as the transparent symbol:

[ID 1: A flag with eight equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are sky blue, blue green, pastel green, pale yellow, pale orange, peach orange, bright pink, and purple magenta. In the center of the flag is a black combined BPD and Autism symbol with added white lines for clarity. End ID.]

[ID 2: A flag that is identical to the first, but the symbol does not have white lines. End ID.]

[ID 3: A flag that is identical to the first, but there is no symbol. End ID.]

[ID 4: A flag that is identical to the first flag for BPD and Autism above the cut, but with white lines added to the symbol for clarity. End ID.]

[ID: Two images. Both images are the combined BPD and Autism symbol. The first has white lines added for clarity while the second has these areas made transparent. End ID.]

NPD + ASPD adjacent flag!

[plain text: NPD + ASPD adjacent flag! /end plain text]

After months, I am still on the rocks as to whether I have ASPD, or just display traits. Maybe there are some things we are never meant to know /ref /lyr /lh

So, I made this flag for NPD + ASPD and adjacent! It is general so it can be used by anyone who has either traits of NPD or ASPD or the disorders themselves.

[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dark blood red, berry red, pale brick red, orange, pale yellow, pale grey blue, lavender purple, dark blue, and purple brown. In the center of the flag, there is a white symbol. The symbol consists of an outline of a narcissus flower with the upside down scale ASPD symbol inside. The second image is a flag identical to the first, but lacking the symbol. End ID.]

Flag by me. Colors sampled from the NPD and ASPD awareness flags. Narcissus outline taken from The Noun Project.

Tagging @mad-pride.

Below the cut, I have included the transparent symbol, as well as CMYK versions of the flags! (If you(&) don't know what that means, it's basically the version of the flag in the colors that a printer would output.)

[ID: A white symbol. The symbol consists of an outline of a narcissus flower with the upside down scale ASPD symbol inside. End ID.]

[ID: Two images. Each image corresponds to one of the flags above. They are extremely similar, but there are slight differences in hue and saturation of some of the colors. End ID.]

Turian Variant Flags!

[plain text: Turian Variant Flags! /end plain text]

In order: Apothane, Narcilix, Narcilix (alt), Neoboy, NPD, Acefog, Arofog.

Flags by me. Colors sampled from @noxwithoutstars' acefog and arofog flags.

IDs below cut:

In order:

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are brick orange, off white, grape purple, dark grape purple, and dark magenta. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dark berry red, icy blue, sky blue, desaturated purple, and black. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright pink red, pastel yellow, sky blue, dark blue, and dark purple. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender purple, white, icy blue, ocean blue, and navy blue. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are brick red, pale yellow, lavender blue, dark lavender blue, and dark purple. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, white, bright green, leaf green, and dark green. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are olive green, pale yellow, bright orange, berry pink, and dark purple. End ID.]

Created an alternate flag for Narcilix (Link) because I wasn't happy with the old one! I wanted to make it more like the Anisolix flag. Feel free to use either one!

[ID: A flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dull yellow, dull orange, red, deep red, black, blue grey, lavender grey, light blue grey, and blue white. End ID.]

Flag by me. Colors inspired by the Anisolix flag and NPD awareness flag. Tagging @npd-archive.

it bothers me so much when "mental health advocates" are only supportive of the "acceptable" symptoms and disorders...

people who "advocate" for depression but call others disgusting for having trouble showering, or people who "advocate" for trauma survivors but say you shouldnt express your trauma in art or talk about it because its "triggering"...

people who "advocate" for BPD but demonize NPD and ASPD as if they arent in the same cluster...

people "support mental health" until it isnt relatable. people "support mental health" until it cant be romanticized. people "support mental health" until symptoms disrupt life. people "support mental health" until symptoms are noticeable and not easily hidden.

you are not an advocate if you do not advocate for us all. you cannot be a mental health advocate while also talking badly about people with personality disorders, including ASPD and NPD. you cannot be a mental health advocate if you make fun of autistic people who are visibly autistic. you cannot be a mental health advocate if you call the police on someone with psychosis for talking to themselves in public.

if your entire "advocacy" revolves around demonizing more "severe" symptoms or disorders, and romanticizing the "good" and "relatable" symptoms or disorders, you are not an ally. you are feeding into stereotypes.

i have ASPD and NPD. the amount of hate i see in "advocate" spaces is honestly shocking. if your entire advocacy revolves around "helping depressed autistics escape evil narcissists!!!!", you are not an advocate, you are ableist.

people with stigmatized disorders or symptoms should not have to water down the way they experience life and describe their personal symptoms and experiences just to avoid being called bad people. by demonizing some disorders while romanticizing others under the guise of "advocacy", you are spreading misinformation and reinforcing stereotypes. you are worsening the stigma for people who already struggle. you are harming everyone with struggles, because a lot of society does not see a difference of "good" vs "bad" mental illness. to ableist neurotypicals, we are all bad.

you hurt the entire community by excluding your own.

you advocate for all of us, or you help none of us.

hey guys, ive been trying to look for information on NPD and ASPD comorbidity but the only things i can find online are ableist "narc abuse" articles LMFAO...

i am questioning if i may have comorbid NPD and ASPD, but im not entirely sure how this comorbidity might look... so i figured id ask and see if anyone with the comorbidity could explain

you're hungry.

you know you're hungry.

you're not hungry enough to do anything about it.

you decide to wait until you're hungry enough to do something.

you're finally hungry enough but feel sick because you've waited for so long.

you wonder why you keep doing this to yourself.

you repeat the cycle the very next day.

ED/fat fetish blogs DNI.

Saw a post on IG reels recently that said “what to do when narcissistic people attack!” And the comments were just a fucking mess. Apparently anyone who has slightly criticized you is a narcissistic person. 🤔 Also anyone who has narcissism that is trying to critique your art is just trying to manipulate you. 🤔 like huh?!

>"cluster b demonization isn't real! you're just making that up because you're attention seeking and wanna be a victim!!!"

>open internet browser

>"how to defeat narcissists" article is on the front page in the health tab

I just got clinically diagnosed with NPD. Everything suddenly feels… ‘right’, like it’s all coming into place as it should! Huh.

“empaths” are THE stupidest fucks on the planet. not to mention the ableism lol

If you’re someone without a personality disorder trying to defend people with personality disorders, you get told that you’ve been manipulated and brainwashed and can’t be trusted.

If you’re someone with a personality disorder trying to defend yourself, you get told that you’re manipulative and dangerous and can’t be trusted.

There really is no way for us to win.

Some of y'all be like "Oh yeah I support Cluster B" until they:

Have debilitating cognitive problems

Are depressed

Have emotions that aren't aesthetically pleasing

Don't know healthy coping mechanisms

Have a different view of social norms

Struggle with relationships

Do actions that for you are "obviously purposefully evil"

Explain the thought process behind their actions, not excuse them

Have trauma that just by existing doesn't invalidate yours but somehow that thought scares you

It's almost like you don't support Cluster B, hm.

Just a reminder that ableism against personality disorders, especially cluster b personality disorder, is alive and well.

Not having empathy doesn’t make someone evil. It doesn’t make them an abuser. In fact, people without empathy are better in certain vital positions. We’re better at being first responders, 911 operators, and other tasks that would overwhelm empaths. We work better in critical situations than empaths do.

Thinking that any disorder makes someone evil is ableist. And when you take into account the sexist bias in diagnosing women with BPD and the racist and classist bias in diagnosing POC and prison inmates with ASPD and NPD? It’s not only ableist, it’s all kinds of -ists. Plus, it’s really rich for someone who claims that empathy is what makes someone good to have so little empathy for people with disorders that are literally trauma-based.

So yeah if you see someone being a dick to people with PDs? Say something. Because they’re definitely not going to listen to us.

Reblog/interact if your blog is a safe space for all people struggling with their Cluster A, B, and C personality disorder regardless of whether they are high or low-functioning in their disorder.

It's very common for people to push those with demonised personality disorders to the end of their tether via manipulation, bullying, abuse, etc. and then get upset with them when they inevitably snap.

It happens a lot within the neurodivergent community, too! People spread lies about us, do things that purposely upset/trigger us and then when we start to get upset/stand up for ourselves/etc. it's "sEE??? we were right about them all along!!!!"

“Go to therapy” Are you gonna pay?

I love people with npd so much. I’m sorry that world is so ableist. I’m sorry that you can’t be anywhere without hearing the word ‘narcissism’ or ‘npd’ used in a negative light. I’m sorry that there isn’t anywhere near enough support.

I’m so sorry that you can’t win. It must be so suffocating and aggravating, living in a world where it feels like everybody hates you. You deserve better.

My Takes

Consider these

People with personality disorders are not inherently abusive. Yeah, even people with NPD and ASPD (why do I have to say that?) There is no such thing a narcissistic abuse. People with ASPD are not serial killers. They are people, stop putting them down for no reason. People with personality disorders are welcome here. All of them.

Armchair diagnosing is bad. I don't care how shit someone is, if you call them a narcissist, a psychopath, a sociopath, a compulsive/pathological liar, or literally any other disorder that they haven't been professionally diagnosed with, you're a dick. You can't know what's going on in their head. You are not their doctor and are not qualified to diagnose them. And it's just a dick move to diagnose Casey Anthony as someone with a heavily-stigmatized symptom THAT I ALSO HAVE HAD

Stop. Tagging. Your. Writing. With. Disability. Tags. The PTSD tag is nearly unusable because everyone tags their fics as PTSD. Stop it. That space is not for you. It's for us.

People with intellectual, developmental, cognitive, whatever disability deserve to be heard.

As do semispeaking and nonspeaking autistics.

Yes, we do need to listen to caretakers, they're how some people communicate. No one is invalid because they're a caretaker, they're invalid when they're an ableist caretaker.

If the autism "cure" were to exist right now, it would mean eugenics. I don't give a shit if you want it, it would mean eugenics. Society is way too anti-autism for us to trust non-autistics with a cure. I won't get into my rant about the concept of a cure unless asked, it doesn't matter. What does matter is that if that cure is created, it will be forced on people, even those who vehemently oppose it, so it can't exist yet without putting people in danger.

Autism Speaks is shit. So is National Autistic Society. So is the Autism Society. ASAN is on thin fucking ice.

Stop tagging political posts with NPD, ASPD, compulsive liar, or no empathy. You're being ableist and armchair diagnosing. And putting that shit on our feeds.

ABA is bad. Yes, always. All of it. I lost a friend to ABA and I will not budge on this. All pro-ABA people will be blocked, I do not give a shit.

I do not care about syscourse. I am not a system and am not qualified to have an opinion on it.

If you point out typos, grammar mistakes, or whatever when the other person hasn't explicitly said it's okay, stop. You're being ableist.

Stop using TBI as an insult. Yes, I was dropped on my head (okay, I fell, but still,) as a baby. Fuck you too.

This is a safe place for systems and I'm firmly anti-Split.

Autistic and intellectually disabled people are allowed to transition, be queer, get tattoos, drink, have sex, whatever, should they so want.

Mental age is bullshit. He doesn't have the mind of a two-year-old, he has the mind of an adult with IDD.

The posts of disabled people are not an excuse for you to trauma-dump. I don't care what your ex did, that person with NPD wasn't talking about them and it's a dick move to bring that up on their unrelated post.

People should not have to work to live. No one. Ever. Period.

Healthcare should be free

Caretakers need to stop killing their disabled charges

Autism Mommies (TM) are shitty people.

Don't even get me started on Fathering Autism (bitch, you aren't fathering autism, you're fathering ABBY)

Disabled people deserve dignity and privacy. All of them. Yes, even those ones. We're still people. You don't need to know how we go to the toilet.

Fiction does not determine morality and sending people anon hate telling them to kill themselves is a shitty thing.

Telling people to kill themselves in general is a shitty thing. What are you gonna do if they actually do it and you get arrested for manslaughter?

Trans kids deserve to transition, intersex kids deserve to not be mutilated and forced onto HRT when they can't or don't consent, children can and will be queer

Actual sex education needs to be standard

Label policing LGBT+ identities is bad

Devotees and "transableds" are not allowed here

Children and disabled people deserve to exist in public, even if you don't like us

Stop. Saying. Retard. Stop using autistic as an insult. Stop it and go to hell.

I'm pro-choice and I know you don't actually care about fetuses with Down Syndrome, you're just trying to guilt me.

I will reblog with more takes as they occur to me

And, most importantly, listen to ALL disabled voices. All of them. Every single one. We stand together or we don't stand a chance.