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🧁🍥STOP BEING LAZY AND PATHETIC🧁🍥

This post is my notes of Thewizardliz video on how to stop being lazy and pathetic. This account will be my digital notebook where I will write notes from Liz and Tam Kaur's videos ( LOL ) .

🧁WHO ARE LAZY PEOPLE ?

Lazy people are the forgotten ones. People that don't want to do anything with their lives, they will always end up on a sideline.

🍥REALIZE THAT NO ONE CARES IF YOU ARE LAZY

Everybody has problems. No one cares about your victim mindset and about how life was hard or unfair for you. Life is unfair to everyone . Life goes on. Everyone is busy with their own lives. We got to get moving !

🧁YOU AREN'T LAZY , YOU ARE PRIVILEGED

People that need to survive have no option to be lazy . People that are walking up the stairs and they can barely breathe , they have no option anymore than to lose that weight. People that are so vulnerable and their bodies cannot handle of them being so underweight have no option but to lose weight. People that have to go to work otherwise there is no food on the table. They have no option to be lazy. If you have the option to be lazy, you are privileged.

🍥THE HALO EFFECT

The halo effect is when we see a beautiful person , we will think that they are less likely to do something bad because we associate someone beautiful with being a good person. Its the same way with successful person. If we see a successful person in any field , we will assume that they are successful in all their aspects of life. Suppose if a person have a successful business , we will automatically think that they are successful in their relationships and everywhere. If you are lazy , you can't benefit from the halo effect . It takes effort to be beautiful and to maintain beauty. We only see these successes , we don't see the progress. Most people are privileged and have it all but most people come from zero and create it for themselves. It takes discipline.

🧁FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE FORCE : HEALTH , DIET AND RELATIONSHIPS

When you feel that you are lazy , focus on your life force . What is your life force ? Health and diet. Focus on moving your body and eat foods that don't spike your insulin and eat food that nourish your body. When you feel lazy or don't feel good , don't isolate yourself. Connect with your family and friends. Also focus on your relationship with yourself. What are you engaging your mind in ? Be connected to your own energy. Journal. Sometimes God or your guides are speaking to you but because your mind is constantly racing , you can't listen to them.

🍥CREATE ROUTINES AND STICK TO THEM

Humans need routines. You need a structurised routine. Sometimes we can't stick to routines but we need a base so we have something to go back to. I would like to add something here , I am reading a book by Brianna Wiest , it's called 101 essays that will change the way you think. There was line in the book . " As children, routine gives us a feeling of safety. As adults , it gives us a feeling of purpose ."

🧁CLEAN SPACE IS SELF RESPECT

Clean space is a clean mind. Not even cleaning after yourself is a sign of huge disrespect to yourself. Stop reading this and clean your room right now !!!!!

🍥THERE IS REASON WHY YOU MADE THAT COMMITMENT TO YOURSELF

Remember the reason . Remind yourself, " Why did I even start ? " " Why did I even want this goal ?" . If you don't want the goal anymore then do something else.

🧁THINK ABOUT WHAT STORY ARE YOU TELLING YOURSELF

If you are telling yourself that you are a lazy person , you will act like one. Your mom didn't carry you for 9 months just for you to say that you are lazy. Get a hold of yourself. Don't complain about how you don't have your dream life if you are lazy.

🍥REALISE YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR REALITY ANY SECOND

You can change your realities really fast if you start acting like the person you want to become.

🧁HEAL THE PAST AND MOVE ON

Go to therapy and heal from the past. You can change your story around . If you are a victim of trauma or abuse , don't just go around and tell people because they lose respect for you .

🍥YOUR BODY RESPONDS TO YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS

If you are constantly living in the past , reliving it , your body will make you ill. If you want a different outcome and different future, you have to do things differently. People around you don't need to change, you have the power to control that. You have the responsibility to heal yourself. What others did to you , it is on them . They will get their karma.

🧁ARE YOU LAZY OR DID YOU STOP PROGRESSING ?

People become happy when they start progressing. We constantly need that drive or something to strive for. Create a new project . Find a new hobby. Learn a new skill. Do something that you haven't tried before or pick something you used to love.

🍥TOO MUCH INFORMATION MAKES US LAZY

There is so much information on the internet to the point we don't know what to do. There are so many videos on the best diet , skincare or workout , we get consumed in other people's opinions and lives. We start filling their lives with our energy. ( Just a suggestion; you can search workout or skincare recommendations but at the end you should choose a diet or skincare or workout which suits you , not others )

🧁ARE YOU TOO CONSUMED IN OTHER PEOPLE'S LIVES ?

If you wonder to yourself : Why do I not have any energy left for myself ? Because you are too consumed in other people's lives so you aren't living your own.

🍥FEELINGS ARE NOT ALWAYS RIGHT

Feelings are just feelings. If we all just react to go out of emotions we would all unalive each other.

🧁ALLOW YOUR FEELINGS TO PURGE AND YOUR BODY TO HEAL.

Feelings purge by you feeling them. Release your emotions , don't suppress them . If you suppress those Feelings, they will get stored in your body and might show up later as physical illness. Sleeping is also healing. Let your body heal. Once that's done , get up and do something . Don't dwell there for too long.

🍥WHAT DO YOU FEEL VS WHAT DO YOU WANT ?

If you feel like eating unhealthy food but then you want your dream body. It doesn't correlate. You need to have discipline.

🧁COURAGE IS BEING VULNERABLE

Go outside and try to meet new people. Do something which you wouldn't normally do .

🍥LEARN TO ASK FOR HELP.

Learn to accept help. Sometimes God send people to help you. Ask help from God and you will receive help in miraculous ways.

🧁BE PRODUCTIVE ON YOUR OWN TERMS.

What does productivity look like for you ? What are your goals? Create that productivity mindset and visions. What works for others may not work for you.

🍥ARE THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU DRAINING YOUR ENERGY ?

If you have toxic people around you , you are constantly around them , you are going to feel bad. Distance yourself. No one can make you feel upset, you have the control over how you feel.

🧁CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON SITUATIONS.

Most people are projecting their insecurities. Instead of feeling angry, have compassion for them. Similiarily , if you are going through a break up instead of thinking that they were the last person on earth. Think that your souls were meant to cross and then meant to separate. You learnt your lesson and they learn their lesson.Change your perspective on things .

🍥FOCUS ON THE THINGS YOU CAN DO

Think about three things you can do . What is your passion ? What makes you happy ? Who makes you happy ? Be grateful for these things. Realise that you can do alot and remind yourself of what you can actually do.

Daily Check-in: Dec 16th 2024 🎀

Made the beginning of a check in for Sunday, saved it to drafts, and now I can't remember a single thing I did on Sunday besides cry from anxiety. Yesterday was good tho, despite honestly not doing much. Being on break is always so difficult for me. I begin to lack energy, motivation, and discipline, and it leaves me feeling very negative about myself. Hopefully I can turn that around soon.

🩷 What I Accomplished

studied Japanese in my Genki I workbook for ~22min

cooked chicken for dinner

took a nap

worked in my 2025 artist of life workbook journal to set up for next year

saved some photos to print for my 2025 vision board + set some goals

zoom called my boyfriend

showered + did my hair oiling/hair care routine

morning journal

💔 What Could've Gone Better

laid in bed for honestly most of the day

over ate a bit

didn't work out

didn't do my skincare at all

didn't journal at night

had to reschedule breakfast with my dad due to anxiety

skipped an online appointment

overall felt really bad about how I spent my day

💕 ToDo Today (Tuesday, 17th)

Japanese + Spanish study tasks from yesterday and today

email therapist about rescheduling Friday's appointment to earlier this week

call physical therapy and cancel Friday's appointment (I'm getting my nails done on Friday and so is one of my roommates so that's why I gotta move stuff around on Friday)

apply for 2 more internships for the summer

morning + night skincare (use a face mask tonight)

morning + night journaling

eat more mindfully

play with my cat a little bit

more work in the artist of life workbook

YouTube pilates workouts

wash makeup brushes

Here's to hoping I follow through with this list today. I'm tired of not keeping promises to myself.

til next time lovelies 🩷

hello lovelies <3

I have been MIA for a while now, and that’s because life has been absolutely bonkers lately. Here’s a quick breakdown:

> my financial habits have been terrible, I’ve been able to afford rent but haven’t been saving or paying off debts at all and it’s driving me crazy but I’m trying to teach myself better habits

> because of my lack of financial skills, I will NOT be taking classes next semester. I owe about 1,800$ USD to my university and won’t be able to register anyways with that high of a balance

> someone who I thought was a good friend turned out to not be and I’m dealing with the aftermath of a hurtful friendship breakup

> because of said friendship breakup, a few people at work have been borderline bullying me for no reason and it’s made me cry and have lots of anxiety at work, has also affected several work friendships in a negative way so I’m pretty much done trying to be friends with people at work

> my roommates and I resigned our lease so I’ll be living with them for this year and next thankfully! I love my rooommates, they are truly good people

> I still haven’t seen my boyfriend in person since January 1st but we’re trying to find time and the finances to get me out to cali to see him hopefully in December

> I started working out again and upped my medication by 2mg and the difference has been immense, I feel so much better, more clear, more like myself and overall just happier and more content

> I’ve stalled in studying Japanese, haven’t put much of any effort towards it lately but want to restart asap as I have a Japanese lesson in 2ish weeks

so, that’s the breakdown. It doesn’t seem like a lot, but believe me, it’s been insane. October has been a crazy month. I’m hoping to get back to it soon and overall start living my life to the fullest again. Will be making an updated post of goals to accomplish by the end of the year so stay tuned for that!

til next time lovelies 🩷

Daily Check-in: July 8th, 2024 🎀

Monday was a really good but really tiring day. I was falling asleep on the ride home from work, and I almost fell asleep on video call with my boyfriend. Twas rough. But I managed to stay awake, enjoy my time with him on video, and then fall asleep immediately after!

🩷 What I Accomplished

15 minutes of Spanish study on Busuu (about 3 lessons and a checkpoint quiz)

got some recommendations to aid in my Korean learning

did my morning skincare

did my morning journaling

worked an 8 hour shift

got a response from the Financial aid office at my University about some requirment they had emailed about, and got my worries lessened

talked to my boyfriend on the phone before he went into work

💔 What Could've Gone Better

was late to work on accident because they updated the schedule and no one told me

found out they didn't pay me right for my upcoming paycheck and I now have to talk to my boss about fixing my pay and paying me what I've earned and am missing

had a mini fight with my boyfriend because of his mom and some other underlying issues that we're working to resolve

got really anxious in the morning and had to leave the hotel room for fresh air

still haven't done laundry

need to study languages more

💗 Stuff For Tomorrow (Tuesday, July 9th)

appointment over zoom with my psyc doc from home

scholarship applications!!!!

look at and compare prices of airbnbs and hotels for when my boyfriend comes to visit me once I'm back home

actually do my laundry

morning skincare + journaling

night time skincare + journaling

study Spanish on Busuu + do some listening practice (maybe some shadowing as well to work on my speaking)

review Spanish flashcards!!!!

refill my water bottle + the gallon we have in the room

look at furniture + decor to buy for when I move once back home

job search on Indeed for when I go back home

💕 Song of The Day: Hurricane by BadVillain

this song is so good, like what the heck

Tuesday is gonna be a day where I am on my laptop quite a lot. But it'll be a good day, ill be productive and get lots done! Hopefully I can head into town tomorrow or do something fun after my day today.

til next time lovelies 🩷

anyone have tips or advice for starting out with tiktok content creation? I think it would be fun and a nice little hobby, but I have no clue where to start. What kind of items would be good to start with, and how do I get the courage to start?

thanks in advance, lovelies 🩷

which kpop groups are your favourites?

it fluctuates depending on my mood and the songs themselves but my consistent favorites have been:

BTS

Stray Kids

Twice

(G)I-DLE

IVE

Itzy

aespa

and currently I've been really enjoying

NewJeans

ILL'IT

Ateez

Babymonster

XG

Kiss of Life

there's a handful of favorite songs from Kpop groups/soloists that, while I wouldn't say the artist or group is my specific favorites, I love the songs. Like I really like, Oh! and Gee from Girls Generation, Bite me by Enhyphen, Super by Seventeen, Pink Venom and Shut Down by Blackpink, Blush by WOOAH, Knock by Lee Chae Yeon, Giddy by Kep1er, Tell Me by Fifty Fifty, Tell me by Wonder Girls, etc. I've been vibing with the summer sounding songs (hence NewJeans and ILL'IT)

Hi, I had a maybe silly question, I’m a guy, but I find the that girl/clean girl aesthetic very appealing, as I struggle with executive functioning and self care as I have ADHD and autism. Unfortunately, most subcultures geared towards men that focus on similar things to these goals also have a misogynistic edge to them. I was wondering if you knew if there was similar subculture or hashtag that I would be welcome in? Is there a clean boy/that boy or gender neutral aesthetic? I’m a bit worried about intruding on a woman-centered space since so many other spaces cater to men.

hi there!

I personally don’t know of any hashtag or subculture that caters to the “that boy/clean boy” aesthetic, but I am hoping anyone who’s sees this can maybe reblog or comment and help us find something like that for you! i will say, there is no harm in identifying with or borrowing from the that girl/clean girl aesthetic if you find ways to incorporate it into your life! I believe the values of these aesthetics are useful for anyone regardless of gender! i do understand wanting to find that community that you can mesh with that has the same aesthetic and values, tho.

if anyone knows of a hashtag or somewhere he can find his space in the that boy, clean boy aesthetic, please comment! If you don’t know of anything, please reblog so we can find that community for him!

I have a bit of a dilemma and I need some outside opinions.

I have the chance to take the next five weeks off of work (somewhat, they’d need help with some things maybe six days I know for sure in the next five weeks). During this time, I’ll receive a paycheck near the end of May, and I can file for unemployment benefits until I go to Colorado in mid June. I wanted to take this time initially to continue studying Spanish, work on my health, and build some good lifestyle habits.

however, I’ve been contacted by a different branch of my company on the university campus to help with dorm cleaning for the summer until I leave. All I know for now is that I’d work ten hours on Monday, from 7am to 5pm, and then I’d find out the schedule going forward. I don’t drive or have a car so I’m a little worried about traveling around campus for cleaning, especially since my friends aren’t going to be working with the dorm cleaning either.

part of me says take the break from work, enjoy life a little bit until you go to Colorado, and file for unemployment. (I’d work 40 hours a week for 8 weeks in Colorado). The other part of me says that I should keep working and make the money because it’ll be decently more then unemployment would give me. Mentally and emotionally, I am a bit burnt out from my semester of work and really do want some time off. But the financial aspect of it is what is keeping me torn.

what should I do?

Daily Check-in: May 8, 2024 🎀

Wednesday did not go as expected whatsoever! But it wasn't too bad, I'm not mad about it! I had a decently good day and feel happy with everything now.

🩷 What I Accomplished:

studied Spanish for 11 minutes

read 17 pages of a book

did my morning skincare

took my chemistry final

cooked a deliciously healthy breakfast

worked a ~6 hour shift

did my laundry

made plans with my friend to go shopping and grab dinner on Thursday

💞 Good Things That Happened:

I passed my psyc quiz and ended the class with an A!

all my current grades are 85% and higher!!!

made plans with my friend, which I'm super excited about

got to zoom with my boyfriend

slept in til 8am

💗 Stuff For Thursday

purchase plane ticket for summer work!

file for summer unemployment (only up until I leave in mid-June, I won't have work til then)

therapy session via zoom

reschedule dietetic appointment

order some groceries

make list for shopping with friend

journal

study spanish for daily minium

read at least 10 pages of a book

look for suitcase for flight

I'm so excited for Thursday right now. It's gonna be such a good day for me omg.

💕 Song of The Day: Baby Tate - I Am

my manifestation song fr. I love this song so much. It's such a high frequency vibe <3333

til next time lovelies 🩷

🎀 Overcoming Gym Anxiety 🎀

I got asked about this through my inbox by @sxfiaaa so I figured I'd make a post about it and hopefully help a lot of people with something I too used to struggle with!

🩷 Wear Comfortable Clothing

We've all seen the beautifully dressed people on Tiktok, Pinterest, etc in their matching sets and cutr gym clothes. If that is what you're comfortable wearing to the gym, do it! Wear it, and be confident in it! If you're more of a loose clothes/sweatpants/baggy shirts or hoodie type of person, do that! Wear whatever you feel comfortable (and cute) in, because the better you feel going into a workout, the more you'll be able to focus on your workout!

🩷 Know What You're Doing When You're There

This just means go in with a plan! You don't need to know how to use every single machine or do every single exercise known to mankind. Scroll tiktok or pinterest for some workout videos for inspo (please make sure the video you get inspo from shows proper form!!! Proper form is so important for being safe!!)

If you know you can go certain days of the week, make a workout split to follow that! EX 3 day split: Monday - Leg Day, Wednesday - Upper Body, Friday - Full Body

OR, if you just want to go do cardio, then plan for that! I didn't know how to use a treadmill, but I went to the gym at my university and stood on the treadmill til I figured it out!

🩷 Remember This

No one is going to look at you and judge you or think mean things about you. Everyone is at the gym for the purpose of bettering themselves and their health. If you find people giving you occasional glances, maybe it's because they don't recognize you from the gym (or they do recognize you from somewhere else), maybe their admiring your outfit/physique, maybe their avid gym goers who are watching your form and technique, or maybe their just zoned out and you happen to be in the line of sight.

When I'm at the gym, I look around between sets and take note on other people's form to see if maybe I should tweak the way I do a certain exercise, or I'm admiring another girls outfit or physique because there are a lot of beautiful women at the gym. Sometimes, I'm thinking "dang, they're lifting so heavy, how cool!" or "wow, their form is amazing, they really know what they're doing." I've never thought bad abut someone at the gym because why would I?

🩷 Don't Be Scared To Ask For Help

if there an exercise you really want to do but don't know how and videos aren't helping, ask someone around you who isn't in the middle of an exercise and looks like they may know. The guy at the gym doing upper body who has good biceps may be the right guy to ask about upper body exercises. The girl doing impeccable Bulgarian Split Squats might be the right person to ask for help with those types of movements. Just make sure they aren't in the middle of an exercise, because that can cause some unwanted issues, especially if they're mid-rep, that can turn into a safety issue.

People love to help people, especially at the gym. If you politely ask for help from someone, they may take it as a compliment that you think they look like a person who is knowledgeable on working out. I'd definitely be so flattered if someone asked me for help or advice at the gym!

🩷 Random Advice:

remember your why! no matter how anxious you are, remember why you're going! what are your goals, what do you hope to achieve, how proud will you feel after?

start small if you have to! if it's really anxiety inducing to start working out, make it your first goal to at least step into the gym. then 2nd goal, walk around the gym to get a feel for it. 3rd goal, maybe 5-10 minutes on a treadmill, and then keep building momentum each day.

be careful with the hours you go! there is such a thing as peak gym hours. It varies by place, but a lot of gyms are busy between 2pm and 6pm I've seen. I personally love going to the gym super early morning, it's a little less busy and I'm a morning person so it works out for me! If you can only go during peak hours, bring a friend or keep your headphones on and do your thing!

Bring a friend! If you're really anxious about going alone, bring a friend with similar goals! Sometimes it can be a lot nicer to learn something new with a friend then try and learn it on your own! Plus, it's like extra motivation and accountability!

Have a motivating pre workout routine. Play some music while getting ready, prep your bags, prep your playlist, get your workout itself figured out, and just keep yourself excited to go! I love blasting high-energy music that makes me feel like a baddie on my way to the gym.

I hope this was helpful!! My thoughts were everywhere but I tried to convey them as best as possible! I'm happy to answer any questions or offer more tips and advice, don't feel scared to ask! <3

til next time lovelies 🩷

Hello lovelies <3 I've decided I really would love to start posting more advice/tips/lifestyle content along with my daily updates and study content, but I have no idea where to actually start. So, I would love it if you guys could send me asks with things you'd want to know about, things you want advice or tips on, or even some of my own routines and habits you'd want to know about! I will do my absolute best to answer and be as thorough and thoughtful in my tips/advice/lifestyle content, so please feel free to flood my inbox! <333

til next time, lovelies 🩷

Daily Check-in: April 22, 2024 🎀

Monday was okay. Monday was good. Monday was busy and I ended the day so so so tired. And I'm still stressed financially at the moment. But that's okay! Life always works out the way it should!

🩷 What I Accomplished:

made it to my job interview for the 2nd job a little early and did a good job ( I won't hear back for a while tho cause of the timing of interviews, finals, etc)

did the 11 minute Wake Up Yoga by Yoga with Adriene

did the 16-minute Yoga for Flexibility by Yoga with Adriene

got +12k steps (have no idea how many but I hit 10k by 630pm and I didn't leave work until 10pm)

worked a ~7hour shift

did my night time skincare routine after work

did my morning gratitude journaling

💞 Good Things That Happened:

my friend at work is going to help me purchase my plane ticket for work this summer and I could cry, it's so kind of her and I'm so grateful I have a friend like her <3

did good in my job interview!

accomplished my morning routine + woke up at a decent time

made it to my chemistry lecture + actually paid attention and took notes

talked to my dad on the phone a little bit

kept up with how abnormally busy it was at work and got complimented by my supervisors

my request for time off for a day in May got approved

tried new makeup that looked good (sephora brow gel and rare beauty Mascara for the win!)

💗 Stuff For Tuesday:

refocus on academics + study chemistry after class for the upcoming exam

start studying Spanish again (I have an italki lesson in 1 week)

prepare for nutrition coaching that's on Wednesday

prep for module quiz for psyc class

complete morning and night journaling

do morning and night skincare

order more waters for the week (essentia + 40pk of normal waters, the city tap water is absolutely disgusting in my town)

zoom call with the boyfriend

try to get 8k to 10k steps again!

I am going to make Tuesday a good day. I am going to make the most of every day and see the positives as much as I can. I am so tired right now, but I'm going to have a good day regardless.

til next time lovelies 🩷

💕 Song of The Day: Lion by (G)-Idle

This song has been making me feel some sort of way lately, I'm definitely a huge huge stan of (G)-Idle (and our girl Soojin, ofc <3)

Pilates Videos Reccomendations!

I am looking for specific pilates videos that you guys enjoy to give me some new things to add to my YouTube playlist! What are some videos that didn’t make you breaks a sweat? Videos where you broke the biggest sweat? Easiest? Hardest? Favorite? Least favorite? Please share as your girl is always looking for things to spice up her workout routine! I just ordered three lb dumbbells, a small pilates ball, and resistance bands so videos involving these are welcome as well!!

thanks lovelies 🩷

Day 31: 90 Day Challenge 🎀

I completely skipped Saturday due to how bad of a day Saturday was for me. I had a couple of mini anxiety attacks, cried a lot, and still have no idea what triggered it for me. Yesterday tho was a much better day. I made sure of it.

🏋‍♀️ Physical Health

ate semi intuitively, listened to my body's fullness and hunger ques a bit

chose a Dr pepper cream soda zero over a normal Dr pepper (healthy, tasty alternative)

ate high protien

bought some breakfast groceries

🧠 Mental Health

meditated

morning journal

❤️ Emotional Health

respected myself in a situation where I previously wouldn't have and felt good about it

📚 Intellectual Health

looked into different financial literacy podcasts and found one I liked (Martinis and you Money, on spotify)

🏘 Adulting

deep cleaned the entire kitchen

washed laundry + put it away right after

washed my comforter

cleaned my bathroom

cleaned my desk

filed my unemployment certification

zoom called my boyfriend

🥰 Self Love/Care

wrote my nightly health check in reflection

went to bed early as I've been having poor sleep lately

yesterday was an average but better day for me. today is going to be even better, I'll make sure of it. I'm going to the gym, going on a walk, making delicious healthy food, and gonna have a self care day! ohhh, if anyone can recommend some good girly movies or tv shows for a self care day?? anything not on Netflix as I won't have access to Netflix until later this week! I have Hulu, MAX, Prime, and I think Paramount as well? thanks girlies <3

til next time lovelies 🩷

Day 28-29: 90 Day Challenge 🎀

For yesterday (Wednesday) and today, I've done very close to absolutely nothing due to immense lack of sleep and trying to recover from all the exhaustion of being unable to sleep properly.

I knee this challenge wasn't going to be easy all the time, but after napping a bit today and working out my daily tasks and schedules for the next week, I'm feeling confident about tomorrow. I've decided to incorporate a lot more health and wellness activities into my daily routines, especially since I am unable to take my mental health medications due to insurance issues. I figure it is up to me to take charge of my health, sort of as it's own side challenge to keep myself healthy and stable and sane.

Insurance issues aside, I plan to budget for bi weekly therapy sessions, as even without medication, therapy has been life changing for me and luckily I can still see my therapist for a reduced price per session.

This challenege will be a bit more wellness, health and overall productivity based moving forward until the semester starts again which will lead it to be more school/intellectual focused.

I am definitely tasked with a heavy load of mental and physical self work, but these next 5 weeks of low stress and low priorities will give me the building tools I need.

til next time lovelies 🩷

Recommendations? 🎀

Hey lovelies <3

Let's help some girlies out by commenting or reblogging with your favorite self care products! Could be skincare, makeup, hair care, body care, etc! I'm always looking for some new products/tools to try so I thought this would be a good way to spread some helpful info!

Here's a few of my favorites:

🩷 Skincare:

I love face masks and eye masks! My current favorite face mask is the Red Bean Pore Refreshing Face Mask by Beauty of Joseon and my favorite eye masks are The Creme Shop Work Hard Rest Hard eye masks!

🩷 Body Care

body scrubs/body butters! I love using two similar scents together! For the summer, I use Tree Hurt Tropic Glow scrub and body butter and for winter I use Dove Exfoliating Scrub in Brown Sugar and the EOS Vanilla Cahsmete Lotion.

🩷 Hair Care

No specific product recommendations for this, but I love oiling my scalp twice a week! It makes my hair feel and look so beautiful! I currently use The Ordinary Moroccan Argan Oil and I use a scalp massager to gently massage the oil onto my scalp after applying it with warm fingers.

Hair Masks!!! I love the Shea Mositure Raw Shea Butter Hydration Mask so much, I use it with conditioner on my hair oiling days and my hair has never looked better.

🩷 Makeup

I love the Essence Tinted Brow Gel because even if I don't do much makeup, it makes me feel and look a little more put together.

Same goes for the Ulta Beauty Gel Eyeliner in Dark Brown, it makes me look and feel so much better some days, and it's not super bold like liquid liner so I don't feel the need to use Mascara.

Lip Oils!!! Milani Fruit Fetish and Elf Revive are my two favorites!! I have Milani In Cherry Lime and Elf in Jam Session. So moisturizing and a bit tinted so it makes me feel so good when I have it on. Even when I wear a bare face, I always use one of these to elevate my look!

🩷 Miscellaneous

Vitamin/Mineral supplements! I only take ones I know will work for me or ones I'm deficient in. I currently take Vitamin D3 and Aple Cider Vinegar supplements but I am looking into taking Magnesium Gylcinate and Ashwagandha soon as well!

Self care hobbies and routines! My gentle morning routine, journaling, yoga, a wind down night routine, and reading informative books has been so helpful for me!

I'm personally looking for hair growth tips and tools (like the efficiency of silk hair wraps or silk pillow cases, hair growth oils and supplements, etc), any and all skincare tips and tools (like ice face rollers, are gua sha effective, etc), and even body care products recommendations as well!!

I hope this post helps others out too, with everyone sharing their products recs, tips, advice, favorites, and so on!

Til next time lovelies 🩷

Day 27: 90 Day Challenge 🎀

yesterday was a pretty good day. However, I only slept 4 hours last night due to late night caffiene intake, and I am feeling it this morning. Hopefully, I'll be able to get some stuff done today and now rot in bed all day.

🏋‍♀️ Physical Health

gym glute day for 1.5 hours

walked home 25+ minutes

cooked pita bread pizzas for the first time (delicious!)

🧠 Mental Health

I dont remember if I did anything for my mental health yesterday, but I don't think I did

♥️ Emotional Health

again, can't recall anything specific at the moment

📚 Intellectual Health

I know for a fact I did nothing for my intellectual health yesterday even tho I know I gotta start doing something for it

🏘 Adulting

went to brunch with my dad

got my unemployment account unlocked

applied for unemployment

bought groceries

picked up some paperwork from my job about the temporary unemployment

video called my boyfriend

rescheduled two night meeting with my mentors

🥰 Self Love/Care

morning skincare

I litteraly can't remember anything right now omg

my brain feels like it's malfunctioning right now due to lack of sleep and whatnot. If I remember anything else from yesterday, I will edit this post to add to it. get your beauty sleep, girlies, cause lack of sleep is no fun!!

til next time lovelies 🩷

if I made an instagram account as like an extension of my tumblr, would anyone follow it? I’d post tips, routines, fave products, etc. it would have academic, fitness, health, lifestyle, girly content. Literally an extension of this blog but on insta.

2024 goals & resolutions 🎀

with 2024 right around the corner I figured it would be a good idea to list out some of my 2024 goals in the different areas of my life. I will have financial goals, health goals, fitness goals, academic goals, and relationship goals.

💕 Financial Goals

build my savings account to a minimum of 1000$ by the end of the year

save enough (~800$) to move into an apartment with my boyfriend

pay off my two credit cards, then use them sparingly

begin investing my money

use a monthly budget spreadsheet (loosely)

💕 Health Goals

Follow a semi anti inflammatory diet using the 80/20 principle

get closer to my goal weight range (healthy weight for my height)

only eat out on occasions, otherwise cook at home only

incorporate more whole foods into my diet

stay hydrated on a consistent level

💕 Fitness Goals

walk 7k-10k steps daily

keep a consistent weight lifting/cardio routine

begin attending pilates/workout classes

don't skip any of my yoga classes at my university

work on improving health and reaching my dream physique

💕 Academic Goals

raise my GPA closer to a 4.0

pass spring/fall classes with all B's/A's

keep a consistent study routine

turn in all assignments conplete and on time

increase class attendance as I am paying for my education and should utilize class time

💕 Relationship Goals

join one to two on campus clubs

make a friend or two within my major

take myself on solo dates

weekly dates with my boyfriend

keep in contact with all friends I make

💕 Random Goals

Read at least 3 books in their entirety throughout the year

Move into a new apartment/rented house

Continue regular posts on my tumblr

Get to N5/N4 level of Japanese proficiency

Get to conversational fluency in Spanish

Those are my goals for the next year! Given that there are 365 days in a year, I should be able to accomplish at least 85% of these!

til next time lovelies 🩷

A Bit About Me 🎀

So I've been getting tagged in a lot of stuff that is basically just talking about yourself. Favorite color, music artists, movies, etc. I never reblog because honestly, I'm not the best at formatting all of that stuff and I don't have the patience to figure it out. So I thought I'd make a little post about myself, including some of my favorites and just little bits of info on me!

🩷 I am currently turning 21 very soon

🩷 I am studying nutrition at my university

🩷 I am in a 1.5+ year relationship w/my man

🩷 Favorite Color(s): light pink, black, white

🩷 Favorite Movie(s): Barbie & The 12 Dancing Princesses, Bratz Live Action (very nostalgic for me, those are childhood favorites for sure)

🩷 Favorite TV Show(s): I really really like Anime, but my current comfort show is American Dad

🩷 Favorite Music: Kpop, hands down

🩷 Hobbies: I like to read, draw, work out, take walks, do my makeup

🩷 Favorite Book Genre: Self Help, though I'm open to read just about anything

🩷 Favorite Female Kpop Idols: Lisa, Wonyoung, Yunjin, Yuna, and all of (G)-Idle and New Jeans

🩷 Favorite foods: pasta, salads with balsamic vinaigrette, dark chocolate, and Greek yogurt bowls

🩷 Favorite Scents: flowery or gourmand. I have an almond macaron candle and it smells divine

That's just a bit about me! If anyone has any specific questions, send me an ask and I'll be happy to respond!

Will be making a couple more updates soon. Favorite drugstore makeup, my current favorite skincare products/routines, favorite meals, 2024 vision board, etc!!

til next time lovelies 🩷

Winter Break Goals/Habits/Things to Begin

So, my winter break begins Saturday officially, even tho I finish all my schoolwork by tomorrow/Thursday. I figured to keep me on track with my goal of being a better me in 2024, I'd make a list of some things I'd like to incorporate into my days during my 6 week long winter break! Not everything will be accomplished, but I'm going to try my hardest.

🩷 My Winter Break List 🩷

consistent workout routine 3-5 days a week

try out a pilates class (local studio)

study japanese/spanish every day (create a new routine for studying either)

consistent sleep schedule (10pm - 6am)

daily afternoon hot girl walks (30+ minutes)

daily gratitude journaling

answer a journal prompt daily

read every day, 1 chapter of a book minimum

pick up a hobby and practice it several times a week (drawing, crochet, etc)

daily morning and night skincare

daily meditation (in the morning)

educate myself on healthy financial habits

drink electrolytes daily

watch one episode of a TV show minimum (NOT American Dad - thats my comfort sho)

clean bedroom and do laundry often, weekly at worst

get ready for the day, every day (do my hair, wear clothes I DIDNT sleep in, maybe some light makeup)

eat breakfast every day

meet my protein goal daily

track all my habits daily

it seems like a lot, yes, but it is completely doable as some of these habits take 10 minutes or less and I have 24 hours in a day to fill up. I get bored very easy si if I don't set goals, I'll end up staying in bed on my phone all day long and that's not healthy or productive whatsoever. I'll include these in my daily challenge updates too to keep myself accountable!!

here's to trying ro be a better me!

til next time lovelies 🩷

Day 20 - 90 Day Challenge 🎀

Yesterday was a really good day. I took a final, went to the gym and worked an 8.5 hour shift. I got to sleep in this morning so that was nice too!

🏋‍♀️ Physical Health

50 minute workout (glute day)

5 min warm up on the stairmaster before glute workout

walked to campus and back twice

walked over 10k steps

🧠 Mental Health

I don't recall. maybe I should omit this category, since I feel like it coincides with emotional health as well?

❤️ Emotional Health

nothing in particular, tho I did have a good day and was I a fairly good mood all day

📚 Intellectual Health

completed my psyc final exam

🏘 Adulting

wrote out lists of gifts to get my boyfriend, his mom, and my dad and step mom for Christmas

budgeted my upcoming paycheck

worked an 8.5 hour shift

recieved an ulta package

zoom called my boyfriend

talked to my dad about my upcoming birthday (him and I are going to lunch)

🥰 Self Love/Care

morning skincare

ate yummy food that I enjoyed

so yeah, good day yesterday and today's been a good day already too! I'll try to update about today later this evening but if not, expect an update in the morning tomorrow!!

til next time lovelies 🩷

Your version of top ten kpop song this year ?

It's such a hard question to answer, but here's my version!! (not necessarily in order, but these are my favorites, and yes, I doubled most cause there's so many good ones)

Queencard by (G)-Idle (this is actually my number one of all year, a repeat, a favorite, the best)

I AM/Baddie by IVE (I don't remember if I AM came out this year but ughhh soo good, and Baddie is in so many of my playlists right now)

OMG/Ditto by New Jeans (both were on repeat this year)

Bet On Me/Cake/Kill Shot by Itzy (both are so good, i wanna go on a run while listening to Bet On Me, its so motivating. The whole album was phenomenal)

ETA/Super Shy by New Jeans (again, both so good)

Unforgiven/ Perfect Night by Le Sserafim (I actually prefer the Japanese version of unforgiven cause of ADO and how good it sounds in japanese)

I Love My Body by Hwasa (such a girly bop about self love, heck yes)

Drama/Spicy by Aespa (Drama has me in a chokehold right now, and Spicy makes me feel like a bad b)

Bite Me by Enhyphen/LA LA LA or S-Class by Stray Kids (I am such a Stray kids stan now, this year was chefs kiss for their music, and Enhypens Bite Me was like, etheral)

Set Me Free/Moonlight Sunrise by Twice (I am such a Twice stan too, they are so close to being no skip discography for me)

Honorable mentions -

Rover by Kai

Young, Dumb, Stupid/Love Me Like This by NMIXX (I learned part of the dance for these two, so addictive)

Set me Free pt 2 by Jimin (finally freeeEEEeee)

Antifragile/Fearless 2023 version by Le Sserafim (antitititititititi fragileeeee)

Memories by Riize (so good sooo goood)

Off The Record by IVE (ughhh I fell in love after the first listen

don't know if these are kpop technically but Social Path by Stray Kids and Do Not Touch by Misamo were absolutely amazing and I played them on repeat together for so long)

Agassy by Soojin (*Mariah Carey voice "She's baaaaacccckkkk")

3D/Seven by Jungkook (he killed his solo songs)

Haegum by Agust D (too good to describe)

Hold On Tight by Aespa (catchyyyyy)

okay, I'm done but yes I love kpop and I am a multistan and I love this music genre so much

til next time lovelies 🩷

Day 16 - 90 Day Challenge 🎀

I was still in a lot of pain yesterday (Thursday), it was a very odd pain, but I've woken up today (Friday) and it's finally gone! I'm excited because now I can move around without that uncomfortable feeling. I still didn't do much yesterday but I figured it was worth an update, regardless. That's the point of this challenege. Accountability and consistency.

🏋‍♀️ Physical Health

walked to work (~20 min)

scheduled my gym times for today and next week

found out the gym hours for my campus gym for the first part of winter break so I can schedule in gym time for then too

🧠 Mental Health

made myself get up and out of bed after work to curb how I was feeling (felt kinda numb and decided I needed to do something productive about it)

❤️ Emotional Health

therapy appointment! (may have been my last one until january, thank you gobernment for ending my health insurance coverage today)

was honest with my boyfriend about how I was feeling (was super grateful with how he handled it, hes so patient and understanding and kind to me, I'm so happy with my relationship with this man. I love him, so much)

📚 Intellectual Health

completed the respiratory lab report for my Anatomy lab

made a list of things to accomplish Friday morning (at the study room I booked)

filled in my planner with the rest of the assignment I have due

🏘 Adulting

worked a ~4 hour shift (recieved an actual frozen ham as our christmas gift from work)

cooked spaghetti for dinner for myself (needed comfort food)

cleared my old food out of the fridge

got my work schedule for next week figured out (my last week of work before the break, I could cry because I'm not going to see my work bestie until probably march of next year - she's super pregnant and due in the beginning of January)

filled in my budget for November and realized I spent over my means

deleted shopping apps from my phone

made a tentative lost of some goals for 2024 (might post them! thinking of breaking it down into monthly, quarterly, and yearly stuff)

zoom called my loving boyfriend <3

🥰 Self Love/Care

full morning skincare

full night skincare (I love how my face feels and looks after I oil cleanse)

I actually did a good amount of things yesterday, surprising with how much time I spent in bed not feeling like myself. But today is going to be a good day! My goals for today are to have a decent morning routine, finish and submit my final research study paper for my psyc class, attend the make up lab session for anatomy, attend the lan session for my psyc final exam (that's on monday), go to the gym, and make it through my work shift.

til next time lovelies 🩷

Day 14 & 15 - 90 Day Challenge 🎀

So I'm updating for those two days (Tuesday and Wednesday) because I was semi bedridden with pain in my head and stomach for those two days. Even today uve been feeling some odd pins and needles type chest pain at random times. I don't know if it had something to do with Mondays workout, or other personal issues, or even just stress and high cortisol, but I was in a good deal of pain. (I think it's all the stress I'm enduring, tbh)

I did finish some editing for my final paper due tomorrow (that I need to finish entirely today), and i did make it to my cooking class on Tuesday night but geeze I've been in so much uncomfortable pain. And I'm losing my health insurance tomorrow so there's no time to get it checked out, at least not until i figure out how to get other health insurance.

I also recieved to Amazon packages and an ulta package on Tuesday, and my Oxyshred came in the mail yesterday so that was fun, I always love receiving packages.

I'm sorry for not updating properly. I will have a better update for today's accomplishments.

til next time lovelies 🩷

Day 12 - 90 Day Challenge 🎀

So, I'm going to be honest. Yesterday was a terribly rough day for me emotionally. I isolated myself in my room (my roommates had people over for a late Thanksgiving dinner), ordered way too much McDonald's (that I didn't even finish), and cried for a good 2 hours (me and my boyfriend were going through it). But, I figured it would still be a decent idea to post an update to my challenge and keep trying.

🏋‍♀️ Physical Health

walked to work, walked home from work

walked over 10,000+ steps total

🧠 Mental Health

nothing that I can remember

❤️ Emotional Health

cried, a lot, to release some pent up emotions

talked to my dad about how i was feeling (he always calls at the perfect time, he has a 6th sense for when I'm upset)

📚 Intellectual Health

again, nothing that I can remember. that just means I need to get on my grind later with that (6 page) assignment that's due today

🏘 Adulting

showered after work

worked a 6 hour shift

deposited money into my bank account

recieved and put away some new gym clothes I got in the mail (so happy, everything I bought was so cute and just extremely perfect <3 amazon gym clothes for the win)

🥰 Self Love/Care

did my morning skincare

didn't force myself to do homework knowing how emotional I was

planned my workouts for this week (I'm going to start running again, but slowly building my way up because I am a bit on the heavy side so I don't want to overdo it and risk injury. I also still love lifting weights, which I'm going to keep doing 3 days a week <3)

It's rough dealing with life with mental illness, but I just remind myself that bad days don't make this a bad life. It's all about perspective for me. The more I look on the bright side, the longer I can stay in the light <3

til next time lovelies 🩷

what are some journal affirmations you recommend/receive?

Sorry for the late reply!

When it comes to affirmations, I like to search through tumblr for affirmations that match my feelings or desires, and I will write them on post-it notes and keel them within sight. I change them up depending on mood and current desires, but they always help me with my mindset!

But yeah, searching through tumlr blogs that post affirmations that match my needs is what I suggest, as it's what's worked best for me! <3

I’m sure you get this question a lot, but what are your best tips to starting your own tumblr self care diary ? 💕

This is actually the first time I've ever got asked this! I can think of a few tips that I kept in mind when I created this blog.

Be authentic. For me, I use this as a safe space to be myself without fear of judgment. And I find it helps me to be honest and open and true to who I am, as it's even helped me to become more confident in my actual life!

Be mindful of your online presence. It depends on the level of anonymity you want, but i try to be mindful of making my identity known. it's the anonymous aspect that's helped me feel more comfortable being my true self.

Be comfortable. Only post content that you are comfortable with sharing and that makes you happy. I have no problem using aestheic pinterest photos, and keeping a theme because it makes me happy and I feel comfortable posting my life with limited details.

Have fun with it! For me, my blog is a form of self expression and I love the way I've curated the aesthetics of my blog to match my interests. I tend to dress a little edgier in person, and I'm an aspiring gym girly, but I love makeup and shopping and kpop and anime. I'm a very multifaceted person and I enjoy sharing those bits of myself online.

Remember this is for you. Don't feel bad for not getting as many likes or reboots or comments because this is for you. When I decided to start my blog as it is now, I had 7 followers. But I didn't care because this was something for me. And now I have over 1200 followers, and im so grateful for this community. This is a safe space I helped create for myself, and I'm just so happy I made the decision to start posting. I appreciate everyone who interacts with my content and who supports and encourages me. It always makes my day, but I never forget that this blog is an extension of myself.

I hope this was helpful! Good luck on your self care diary journey, I wish you the absolute best, and I hope you have the most fun and enjoyment with creating that space for yourself. <3

Day 11 - 90 Day Challenge 🎀

Yesterday (11-25) was kind of productive? I ended up working a 5 hour shift at my job instead of the 8 hour one I was supposed to which by no means upset me because I still made money either way. I tried to get some stuff done beforehand but I honestly just took the morning for rest. I also go back to work this morning as well so I'm really happy to get back to routine.

🏋‍♀️ Physical Health

took a 30+ minute walk around campus before I had to go to work

walked 9778 steps total

ate a really good salad with tomato, cucumber, romaine, shredded carrots, and balsamic vinegrette. (who knew balasamic vinegrette was so yummy!)

drank half a liter of essentia electrolyte water

stopped eating breakfast when I was comfortably satisfied and didn't push past my limits

ate 2 servings of fruit + 1 serving of almonds + 1 serving of cashews (so yummy, cashews and almonds for the win)

🧠 Mental Health

nothing that I can remember at the moment

❤️ Emotional Health

some more retail therapy. bought myself some oversized t shirts online to use as gym shirts/everyday shirts. I may be plus size but I still love me an big comfy t shirt, especially to workout. I think I bought 11 or 12 shirts? cost me 90$ USD.

📚 Intellectual Health

does it count if I said I did a lot of budgeting for what I was buying?

because otherwise, nothing else

🏘 Adulting

worked a 5 hour shift

phone call + zoom call with my boyfriend

took care of some laundry I had previously washed (still have more to take care of)

🥰 Self Love/Care

morning skincare

that's about it, but I think the walk helped my anxiety, and retail therapy always feels like self love because I used to feel guilty for buying myself stuff

Yesterday was a good day for sure. Today, my goals are to make it through my work shift, complete my reflection paper that's due tomorrow night, drink one liter of essentia electrolyte water, answer a journal prompt, and set myself up for tomorrow morning (I have a 730am class on Mon and Wed, so I gotta be up bright and early tomorrow!)

My Mondays are always so busy. Here's a little breakdown for those who are curious:

Wake up early, get ready, coffee, skincare, pack school bag, set out work stuff

Class at 730am to 845am

class from 9am to 1015am

quick snack at the dining hall at 1025am

review homework/tasks for the week

gym from 11am to 1215pm

walk home

shower, eat something proteiny, get ready for work

walk to work 130pm

work from 2pm to 10pm

get home, change/shower, zoom boyfriend

go to sleep by 11ish pm

I love Mondays tho, the routine always sets me up for the week!

Anywho, that's all for now!

Til next time, lovelies 🩷

Day 10 - 90 Day Challenge 🎀

I feel really good about today. I got a lot done despite trying to nap three times (I wasn't able to actually get any sleep), and the only reason I kept trying to nap was because I've been up since 3am. It's easy to get a lot done when you've been up forever.

🏋‍♀️ Physical Health

took a walk around campus outside

logged most of everything I ate into my food tracking app

cooked a healthy breakfast + ate a serving of fruit (red grapes)

🧠 Mental Health

morning guided journal

night time guided journal

retail therapy <3 (bought some makeup on the ulta app)

❤️ Emotional Health

read 2 sections of 101 Essays to Change the Way You Think

answered the journal prompt "what is one of my limiting self beliefs?"(realized I'm the reason I don't have many friends, need to change that)

📚 Intellectual Health

finished chapter 13 notes for psyc

completed all of chapter 14 notes for psyc

selected my articles for my reflection paper for my health and sport class + formatted Google docs for each article reflection writing

(This all took me 2.5 hours from 4am to 630am, the perks of accidentally waking up early as heck)

🏘 Adulting

organized my desk drawer

reached out + invited my older brother to come see me since he was in town (he'll be here soon!)

had a phone call with my dad

🥰 Self Love/Care

morning skincare

night skincare (just moisturizer, I was tired)

took a warm shower + brushed my teeth (as gross as it sounds that I don't do it every day, depression sucks and I'm proud of myself for even one win )

made my bed (trying to make it a habit)

let in morning sunlight until it began to get dim outside (keeps electricity costs down and boosts my mood when I'm in my room)

I am very proud of myself for today despite my lack of motivation these last few days. Hopefully, this carries over to tomorrow, and I can be productive at least a little bit before i have to go to work. There's still time in the day, but I'm satisfied with today, which is why I'm posting this a bit early in the evening. Thank you and much love to everyone who has been commenting encouraging and supportive things it makes it easier to be open and honest about my struggles, mental health, and overall well-being.

til next time, lovelies 🩷